3 Reasons Why Guys Don’t Share Their Feelings
Video Summary
In this video, DatingAdviceGuru.com author Carlos Cavallo breaks down a man’s emotional reality and shares why guys seem to have a tough time talking about emotional topics.
Emotional reality #1: He’s in a double bind when it comes to sharing his feelings…
Men are encouraged to open up more about their feelings but when they actually do, their partners are not prepared for it. Women are weirded out to hear men talk about emotions. So when a woman says she wished her man were more open about his feelings, she actually meant only certain feelings and only in the amount they can handle.
Emotional reality #2: Men often feel their emotions in their physical bodies…
Just like everyone else, a man needs to vent his emotions. Otherwise, strong negative emotions can manifest themselves as diseases. But men don’t express their feelings well through words; rather, they vent through actions. If he asks you how your car is running, it’s actually his way of saying he cares a lot about you because he cares about your safety.
Emotional reality 3: Men will shift their emotions to a place where it is deemed acceptable…
A sporting event is almost like men’s emotional party. You see a bunch of guys yelling, cheering, tearful, angry…Men will often use a different venue for communicating their emotions and sports is a common – and accepted – way for them to blow off steam.
So now that you are a bit more aware of a man’s emotional reality, here are the real reasons why a man won’t talk about his feelings with you:
Reason 1: He’s emotionally unavailable…
Being emotionally unavailable could be a reason for some men but not nearly as much as they’re made out to be. Also, it doesn’t mean that they are broken just because they refuse to discuss feelings. It has nothing to do with ability, either. Desire moves men to action and it just so happens that men don’t desire talking about emotive topics as much as women do.
Reason #2: He’s not attached to his emotions…
Women seem to think that he’s in “denial” when a man is like this but to him, he just doesn't have a deep synthesis with his feelings. You see, men evolved to disconnect himself from his emotions so that he could get the job done. He’s not running from his feelings; he just doesn't have the same tolerance for emotional expression that women do.
Reason #3: He doesn't want to say something wrong…
Women are a mystery to most men and dealing with all the uncertainties of dating makes him anxious and undermines his confidence. Thus, he keeps his distance so as not to mess things up. That’s about the range of of emotional expression he allows himself. He wants to save himself the trouble of fixing a mistake in the near future so he stays quiet.
It’s all a matter of perspective. If you want to know how your guy feels about you, just look at his actions. They say more than his words will.
About Carlos Cavallo
Carlos Cavallo is a dating and attraction adviser, as well as a black belt instructor and motivational life coach. He’s the author of Forever Yours – The Secret Password To His Heart, The Connection Code, and too many other programs to mention.
Carlos brings to the table a variety of life experiences, including a background in relationship skills, life-coaching, motivational psychology, sales, management, Martial Arts, teaching and instruction, energy work, Eastern philosophy, the psychology of achievement, and music.
Carlos Cavallo’s programs teach the essence of attraction between the sexes. By understanding the successful traits of an attractive single, you can attract the right man, achieve more success with your personal and social world, and experience a more rewarding life.