3 Texts To Avoid + 3 Texts To Send To Recreate Attraction and Get Your Ex Back
Video Summary
In this video, breakup coach Brad Browning dishes out tips on what to text and not to text your ex if you ever hope to get back together.
Texting, when done correctly, is a safe way to start communicating with your ex. But before talking about what to text your ex, there are three texts that you shouldn’t send if you want to get your ex back:
Wrong Text #1: Hate Text
While being angry is normal, venting off at your ex can ruin your chances at reconciliation. People gravitate towards what makes them feel good so if your ex associates you with bad emotions, he or she will not want to have anything to do with you.
Wrong Text #2: Spam Text
Nobody wants to be on the receiving end of 30 negative texts a day so don’t think it will up your chances with your ex if you annoy them this way.
Wrong Text #3: Overemotional Text
Showing neediness may be honest but it’s definitely not sweet, especially to your ex. It can be irritating and will just drive them farther away.
If you’ve sent any of the above text messages already, all is not lost. Just send a quick apology and then leave it at that. Go into the “no contact” phase for 30 days. After that, try to reconnect with your ex by texting these instead:
Correct Text #1: Big Interest Text
Send a text that has a clear purpose – for instance, inform your ex about something that may be of interest or has value to him or her. Word the message in such a way that you don't force a respond. If your ex ignored it, that’s fine because you sure have piqued their interest already.
Correct Text #2: Good Reminder Text
The aim of this kind of text is to get your ex to conjure a positive and happy memory of a shared experience in the past. You can veil it as a question to elicit a reply.
Correct Text #3: Smile Text
This type of text tells your ex that you are reminded of something about them that made you smile – and do put a smiley emoticon at the end of your text. No drama, just a simple reminder about something that is positive and interesting.
If you went through the “no contact” phase, your ex will be more likely to welcome a new you into their lives. This is why sending any of the “good” texts above is sure to prompt a reply. When your ex does respond, keep it cool and take it slow.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.