Amy North is a relationship coach from Vancouver, Canada and in this video, she shares the top six things that you should never, ever say to a man.
1. “You’re just like my ex.”
Just as you don’t want him comparing you to his ex, it also deflates his ego if you compare him to yours. Even if you meant it in a good way, it will never be taken for a compliment. After all, your ex is an ex for some reason. Saying he’s just like your ex is like saying, “it’s not going to work out between us, too”.
2. “I always seem to date jerks.”
There are only two ways that this message gets across to him: either he sees you as a self-entitled woman who blames everyone else for her relationship problems, or he sees you bad mouthing him in the future, too, just as you are bad mouthing all those other guys now.
The best thing to do is to keep your dating history to yourself. It might come up at some point especially when you’ve been dating for some time, but a simple, “it just didn’t work out between us” should suffice.
3. “I’ve lost track of the number of guys I’ve slept with.”
Even if it’s true that you have lost count of the number of men you’ve had sex with, it’s never a good idea to say so out loud. Again, it might be a topic that will come up especially if you have started to become intimate with your guy; simply tell him it’s none of his business.
It can be quite a tricky question to answer honestly because either way, it could be embarrassing for you. Too high, and he might think you’re easy; too low, he might think you are inexperienced. So when he asks, tell him the number is irrelevant; you’re with him now, and that’s what’s important.
4. “I feel fat.”
Men love women who are confident about their bodies. Even if you feel that you need to shed those extra pounds, saying so in front of a man gives him the impression that you’re insecure. He will not really notice that your shirt is a bit snug around the waist unless you point it out to him. Just try to be comfortable in your own skin, and you’ll have him hooked.
5. “Size matters.”
A guy can get slapped if he tells a woman her breast needs to be a certain size. That’s how rude the comment is. Telling a guy size matters is just about the equivalent, the difference only being that the guy will simply have to bear the comment because he can’t slap you. Making an issue about size is not only rude, it is also belittling. It makes him feel insecure about his parts.
6. “You’re short.”
It doesn’t stop at height – it could also include calling someone weak, fat, and all those things that could potentially bruise his ego. He will not show it but it will definitely irk him more than you know. Just as you wouldn’t want him commenting on your imperfections, don't do the same to him.
About Amy North
Amy North is a relationship coach and best-selling author
from Vancouver, Canada. She specializes in helping women from around the world find and keep the man of their dreams.
Amy’s acclaimed online program, The Devotion System, has sold thousands of copies and is widely regarded as the #1 women’s dating guide on the planet.
To know more about Amy, visit www.devotionsystem.com.