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Are You Just His Booty Call? Make Him Your Boyfriend Instead!
Video Summary
Dating expert Amy North tells you how to go from to booty call to girlfriend in 3 tangible steps! If you have fallen into this cycle and want to shift the balance of power back in your favor, read on!
Are You in the Booty Call Zone?
First, establish whether or not you are just a booty call. There are a few telltale signs that determine if you are just the lady on the side: how much time and effort he puts into seeing you, what time of day he calls you, and what you do when you are together. Odds are you are in a pattern of hooking up with no emotional connection from him if he puts little effort into getting a hold of you aside from sex, only contacts you at night, and he’s memorized the patterns on your bedroom ceiling. If this is you, don’t worry! Realizing you are a booty call is the first step in the right direction!
Step 1: Become less available
You may be thinking, if I stop being free when he calls I won’t see him anymore! I understand the initial feeling of panic from not getting your fix, but in the long run this is a great way to get him to commit! If you show the guy you have a full or exciting life, he is more likely to want to be a part of it. This will keep you on his mind, and wondering what your plans may be. If you have any hope of something more than booty calls, make him wait to see you.
Step 2: Switch Things Up Next Time You Hang Out
Instead of the usual pattern of going straight to the bedroom, take your time together outside the house! Suggest grabbing dinner, or go for a walk. The key here is to get him to spend time with you in public. This shows his willingness to be seen with you, and can be a good way to gauge whether or not he will commit to you.
Step 3: Avoid Giving Him the Benefits of a Relationship Without the Commitment
If you two are only sharing the physical, pull back and tell him you want a deeper connection.
You may be in a situation where you are without commitment, yet sharing an emotional connection. If you are giving him the emotional connection, you are giving him the best parts of a relationship with no commitment! You will have to pull back everything you are currently giving him, NOT JUST THE SEX, and allow him to have enough time to miss you. Once he sees how much value you add to his life, he will be more likely to commit.
About Amy North
To know more about Amy, visit www.devotionsystem.com.