The # 1 Trick To Resist the Urge To Contact Your Ex
Video Summary
In this video, Clay Andrews, a relationship coach shares his advice on how you can stop yourself from contacting your ex during no contact.
You will only end up feeling worse
It can be extremely difficult to control your desire to reach out to your ex during the no contact rule. On one level you really feel the need to connect with them, but on another level you know it’s not what you should be doing. Maybe you want to make peace, understand why something happened, or maybe you just want to hear their voice. What usually happens is you end up feeling worse.
Take it one day at a time
If you have the mindset that you have to make it 30 days and it seems like you can’t make it, you are going to have a very difficult time with the no contact rule. Rather than focusing on the thirty days you have to get through, take it one day at a time. While you may not think you can make it thirty days, you can certainly make it one day. You may find that tomorrow is a better day and you have more control of your urges.
Live in the present moment
If your urge becomes all consuming, wait twenty minutes. Practice being in the present moment. Take a step back and meditate. Feel your feet on the ground. Feel the air entering and leaving your lungs. If you notice your thoughts going back to your back, bring your mind back to your breathing. This will help you break the pattern of urgency you are feeling and get back to your day.
It’s not in your best interest to reach out to your ex before you have completed the thirty day no contact period. If you do, it usually only makes you feel worse than before. It can be extraordinarily difficult to control your urges, but start by taking it one day at a time. Focusing on the notion that you have thirty days may make it seem impossible, but one day doesn’t seem nearly as difficult. If the urge becomes overwhelming take twenty minutes. Pull yourself into the present moment. Focus on your breathing and the feel of your feet on the ground to break the pattern of urgency and help you get back to your day.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.