Is He Sending You Mixed Messages? Here’s Exactly How To Interpret Them + Why It’s Extremely Powerful
Video Summary
While men pride themselves for being quite straightforward, there are instances that women find it really difficult to read them. If the man you’re into may have you questioning his every word and action, trying to read his seemingly mixed signals can be quite frustrating.
In this video, relationship coach Amy North helps you to decode his mixed messages.
Is he sending you mixed signals?
By mixed signals, we mean any message that he’s sending you and then later on contradicts. An example is when he texts you daily for a few days and then he suddenly falls off the map. One day he says one thing, and the next day he does another.
Now here’s the real deal: while women have been trying to decode men’s mixed signals for the longest time now, from a man’s perspectives, these mixed signals don’t actually exist. Yes, you read that right: he was not sending mixed messages. It’s just one of two things – either he wants to be with you or not.
Why would men send seemingly mixed signals?
So it’s really quite simple. If he wants to be with you, then he will. There’s nothing more to be discovered beyond that. While that may be quite a horrifying thought if you've been holding on to hope that he might actually be into you, it’s actually liberating to have solved this mystery once and for all.
That said, why do men send what women might consider to be mixed messages? It’s actually a matter of difference in perspective.
When a woman meets a man, she usually knows early on whether she wants to be with him or not. That is, when she meets someone she’s interested in, she starts to see him instantly as a potential partner; if she’s not, then she nips it in the bud.
Men, on the other hand, aren’t as quick to see women as potential partners. They’re in it for the fun. Sure, they may found you attractive – and that’s precisely why they hang out with you. But even if dating you was a blast, they are not as quick to want to make you his.
And that’s where the seemingly mixed signals come in. From a woman’s view, she already thinks he’s interested at this point, having spent time together and having some fun. To a man, it was just pure, clean fun.
What should you do about his mixed signals?
Let’s not be too hasty to jump into conclusions. It may be that he’s interested in a relationship with you but has been busy and sidetracked with other priorities. But if after, say, a month and he’s not offering you anything serious, then take a hint.
Instead of picking apart his every word and actions, accept that he just may not be interested. Don’t waste your time looking for mixed messages where there are none. If after all these you still want to be in a relationship with a guy, sitting around waiting for him to be serious with you is actually the worst thing you can do. Happily move on and make him realize what he lost when he lost you.
About Amy North
To know more about Amy, visit www.devotionsystem.com.