What To Do If You Are Still Having Trouble After the No Contact Rule
Video Summary
In this video, Clay answers questions regarding the no contact rule. Viewers want to know what to do if after the no contact rule they are still struggling with their ex.
Active No Contact
The active no contact rule is more than just a simple no contact rule. Yes, it is a time of healing and a time for you to begin to feel better, but it goes way beyond that. Active no contact is a time for you to develop relational strategies in which with you can build a better relationship. These strategies will help you to open up to someone else and have better communication with your ex. It’s also strategies that help you avoid being taken advantage of by your ex and avoid becoming a booty call.
Meaningful contact
The point of the no contact rule is to help you later have more meaningful contact with your ex, and actually more meaningful relationships with everyone in your life. You want to be able to have a stronger relationship than you had before. Think less about the weeks of no contact and more about how you can have more meaningful contact when you do interact.
How you do one thing is how you do everything
You want you ex to see your happiness and see that you can even take joy in something as simple as eating a meal. Show them that you will bring 100% of your attention to any interaction with them as well. Changing the way you see the world will change the way you interact with your ex, and your ex will see this change in you.
The no contact rule goes way beyond not contacting your ex for a period of time in order to feel happy again. It needs to be active no contact. By active, Clay is referring to taking action to change the way you see the world. Learn to take joy in all your interactions. People know that the way you do one thing is usually the way you do everything. When your ex sees your changed outlook on life and how you give everything 100% they will associate this with how you will treat them as well.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.