In this video Clay talks about the 3 common mistakes people make when trying to get their ex back.
Reverse psychology or manipulation tactics do not work in the long term. Occasionally, some people will be able to get their ex to come back to them for a period, but eventually they realize they have been fooled and will leave again. Manipulation will not work a second time and the more you try these tactics the more pain you are going to cause.
Becoming a doormat
Some people think they need to be constantly available to their ex. They’ll ditch other friends, drop other activities, and even put off important things like school or work. Essentially, they put their entire life on the back burner just to be with this one person. To begin with, that person is not the person your ex fell in love with. It was the person you were, the things you were interested in and passionate about that attracted them to you in the first place. Avoid making yourself too available in order to get your ex back.
Take on suffering
Don’t sacrifice your own values or ideals to get your ex back because it is a lot of effort to maintain in the long run. Don’t pretend you enjoy football or knitting to bond with your ex. You don’t need to suffer to win your ex back. In the long run it will exhaust you and erode your relationship.
There are three common mistakes people make when trying to get their ex back – reverse psychology, becoming a doormat, and taking on a lot of suffering.
While sometimes these tactics work in the short term, they will doom your relationship in the long run. If you’ve manipulated your ex into getting back together with you, eventually they will see through it and they will be out the door. Putting your own life on the back burner or pretending to enjoy things you don’t to get your ex back are not maintainable and eventually they will exhaust you in the relationship. It’s important that your actions are honest and open when you are trying to get your ex back.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.