In this video, dating advice guru Carlos Cavallo teaches women how to get a guy to stop from taking her for granted. Beginning with one of the most basic principles of human behavior, Carlos Cavallo underscore the need to realize that chasing somebody who doesn't have an interest in you will actually push them away. Conversely, if you don't chase that person, it will increase their level of interest in you.
Breaking this down into a step-by-step process will give you the following:
Step #1: Stop moping and just get out of the house
Are you the type to allow her life to come to a grinding halt everytime a new guy comes into the picture? Well then, you need to learn to fight the urge to turn your life upside down for someone you’ve just met. And honestly, he wouldn’t be doing the same for you.
Even if the guy was head over heels in love with you, he’d still play it cool so he won’t look desperate. And that’s exactly what you should be doing, too. Show him that you’re confident enough to keep to your own plans even when you’re dating him. When you dismantle your schedule just so you can accommodate him 24/7, he’ll catch on. And he’ll either take advantage of your availability or he’ll get turned off.
Step #2: Stop dissecting his texts (for your own peace of mind)
Women do have the tendency to overanalyze things. Know, however, that this will get you nowhere. So resist the temptation to take apart every word that he sends you after your last date.
Instead of sifting through every one of his text messages, pay close attention to his actions. Are his actions consistent with his words? Men may not say exactly what they mean to spare your feelings or to save face or to look good. But when he says one thing and does another, alarm bells should be going off in your head.
Step #3: Stop running after him
Once you realize that he’s not being level with you, the worst thing you can do is to still go after him. It’s like you’re telling him you don’t mind being treated shabbily so he should just keep on it with. Sounds crazy, right?
A lot of women complain of this treatment they’re getting from guys without realizing they’re the ones encouraging it in the first place. So if you find yourself chasing him, just stop. Scale back a bit. Don't contact him, let him wonder what you are up to. Nope, you’re not playing hard to get, you’re simply living your own life.
Now, when you follow these three steps, either one of two things might happen. First, he might disappear for good. Good riddance then; don't consider it a loss on your part. Second, he’ll wise up and stop taking you for granted. He’ll realize your value and behave accordingly.
About Carlos Cavallo
Carlos Cavallo is a dating and attraction adviser, as well as a black belt instructor and motivational life coach. He’s the author of Forever Yours – The Secret Password To His Heart, The Connection Code, and too many other programs to mention.
Carlos brings to the table a variety of life experiences, including a background in relationship skills, life-coaching, motivational psychology, sales, management, Martial Arts, teaching and instruction, energy work, Eastern philosophy, the psychology of achievement, and music.
Carlos Cavallo’s programs teach the essence of attraction between the sexes. By understanding the successful traits of an attractive single, you can attract the right man, achieve more success with your personal and social world, and experience a more rewarding life.