Relationship specialist Carlos Cavallo of DatingAdviceGuru.com reveals the three reasons why a guy is not asking you out in this video.
When it comes to dating, men today are not as aggressive as before. Nowadays, men are more hesitant to approach women they like for fear of rejection. No one feels this fear more deeply than a man because it is actually programmed in his DNA. Back in man’s early days, rejection meant not having kids – that is, the genetic legacy of one who got rejected effectively ended with him. They were culled out by the evolutionary process.
But there’s more to it than that. One fast rule among men: if a guy likes you and finds you attractive, he will take action. He will move to action if he’s genuinely motivated. Why, then, is he not asking you out?
Reason #1: He’s waiting for a sign…
He needs to know that you’re interested in him, too. Remember, he’s mighty scared of being rejected. So you need to put it out there that you’re also interested in him if you want him to get on with asking you out.
But a warning here: don’t do his job for him. Never ask a man out yourself, no matter how obviously he likes you and even though you’re absolutely certain he’ll say yes. If he doesn’t step up now that you’ve shown serious indications of your interest in him, you will always be uncertain about the relationship that could develop between you. And that will kill the romance even before it started.
Reason #2: He’s blown away…
The average guy is in awe of femininity. When he meets a woman he finds genuinely attractive, it overwhelms him and he has to deal with that first. He tries to take in everything about you and the way that you make him feel. Most women are unaware of this, but guys have the tendency to put the women that they really admire on a pedestal.
This shouldn’t last long, however. He doesn't like feeling out of control. He might slow down a little to sort out his feelings and decide how to handle them but he’ll get over it quickly. Men are not used to overanalyzing things after all; when something motivates them, they are moved to action.
Reason #3: He’s just not that into you…
A guy might find your company enjoyable to the point that it seems as if he’s flirting with you. But if there’s no real spark there, then he won’t take it to the next level with you.
Or maybe he just doesn’t know you that well to make up his mind. Or perhaps he’s clueless about your interest in him.
But if you’re quite sure that he’s attracted to you – like he mentioned it to a friend who mentioned it to you – then you might need to open the doors of opportunity for him a bit wider. Let him walk through to get to you.
About Carlos Cavallo
Carlos Cavallo is a dating and attraction adviser, as well as a black belt instructor and motivational life coach. He’s the author of Forever Yours – The Secret Password To His Heart, The Connection Code, and too many other programs to mention.
Carlos brings to the table a variety of life experiences, including a background in relationship skills, life-coaching, motivational psychology, sales, management, Martial Arts, teaching and instruction, energy work, Eastern philosophy, the psychology of achievement, and music.
Carlos Cavallo’s programs teach the essence of attraction between the sexes. By understanding the successful traits of an attractive single, you can attract the right man, achieve more success with your personal and social world, and experience a more rewarding life.