In this video Claire Casey, a dating and relationship coach talks about why guys can give mixed signals and what you can do about it.
He is dating other women, not just you
Often, when someone is at the just dating stage, guys will be seeing other women and not just you, and so what could be happening, is that he is spending time with you, but he is weighing things up, and in his head, hard as this is to hear, he is comparing you to another woman and he is asking himself, is this the woman that I want, and is this the relationship that I want? You can just handle this by acting confidently and obliviously to what is going on, as you cannot question him about this as he is free to do this, unless you have agreed to go steady. Really, you just gotta sit back and be patient and see what happens.
He doesn’t know what he wants
If he genuinely does not know who or what he wants, in general, then he could be blowing hot and cold because one minute, he thinks he wants to date you and the next he wants to be single. There can be all sorts of reasons for this too – he may lack confidence and does not believe that he has what it takes to go the distance and be with someone. Just be patient and enjoy the time that you spend with him and see if in time, things even out. If they do not, but he keeps on seeing you, yet doesn’t commit, ask yourself if this is what YOU want.
He wants a relationship that comes EASY
Sadly, some guys do just take the biscuit, as they want all of the goodness that comes from a relationship without having to do any of the leg work. In other words, he is happy to see you, have sex with you, but he does not want the commitment, so when things come down to it, he bolts and leaves you hanging, only to reappear at a date not so far in the future. He wants his cake and he wants to eat it, and then some. Ask yourself if this is all you think you are worth.
Deep down, you know what to do about this kind of guy, you walk away and you tell him when he has grown up, to call you, but you don't need to be working so hard to make something happen and you know that if you are honest with yourself.
About Claire Casey
Claire Casey is the author of the bestselling online program “Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever.” She has devoted her writing to empowering women in the areas of dating, romance, relationships, and sexual intimacy.
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