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6 Common Reasons Why Men Disappear (#4 is Very Common)
Video Summary
The cause of men pulling away and vanishing is no longer a mystery! In this video, dating coach Amy North explains the top 6 reasons why men disappear and how to handle the situation.
1. You’re a Stage 5 Clinger
Other people need space. If you always want to hang out, text, or snap him, there is a good chance you are pushing him away! Contrary to what you might think, space is a good thing for relationships: it allows time for the relationship to breath, and gives him time to miss you. In fact, it is healthy to pursue passions and interests apart from one another.
2. The Sexual Attraction is Fading
In the beginning of a relationship, everything is exciting. The hormone dopamine, responsible for the puppy love high, fades after a few months. This can cause your man to pull away. There are a few ways to remedy this, and dating coach Amy North addresses these and more in her presentation on coachnorth.com.
3. Other Things Are Going On
Not everything is about you. That is important to remember in all relationships, not just dating! There may be other things he needs to concentrate on at the moment like work or school. Ask him if he needs his space, and if he does then back off and let it ride. Remember, it is not you causing his actions!
4. Boredom
Sometimes, relationships get stale. If you feel like things are too comfortable and boring, he most likely feels the same. The remedy? Keep things exciting! Take up a new hobby or passion together. Go out to a new, interesting place on your next date. Psychologists say having new experiences together is one of the greatest factors in keeping your relationship fresh. He will be addicted in no time!
5. Too Much Responsibility Elsewhere
Men have insecurities, too. This fact is easy to forget, because our culture pushes the narrative of traditional masculinity. However, your man needs to feel needed just as much as you do! Men will disengage if they feel inadequate, whether or not it is about you. Some men find this a touchy subject, so approach this particular conversation with empathy.
If he treats you well, show him your appreciation! If he is contributing, make him feel like he is contributing! Shower him with complements when he does something kind for you! Not only will he feel good, but he will be motivated to continue his good behavior!
6. He May Not Be Right For You
Truth is, not everyone is compatible. Truth hurts. Sometimes letting someone go is the best choice.
About Amy North
To know more about Amy, visit www.devotionsystem.com.