Am I Doing the Right Thing With No Contact? [Here’s How You Know You Are Doing the No Contact the Right Way]
Video Summary
In this video Clay Andrews, a relationship coach talks about how to tell if you are doing the active no contact rule the right way. It’s easy to mess it up or confuse it with something else, so how do you know?
Active No Contact is not a means of control
First of all make sure you are not using it as a means to control your ex or to force them to contact you. You can’t control someone else. You can really only influence them through your actions or deeds. Secondly, you want to make sure you are doing the active no contact rule for yourself. Make sure you are using it as an opportunity to change yourself or transform yourself. You want to leave a lasting impact with your ex when you do contact them so they will be able to see you are not the same person they broke up with.
Are you making changes to yourself?
A lot of people have this idea that you cut contact and sit around not doing anything for a month and your ex will magically want you back. This is absolutely not true! You have to make changes so that your ex can see you are not the same person they walked out the door on. Otherwise, when they see you they are going to believe that they made the right decision in leaving you. If they see you are a different person they will be forced to reevaluate their opinion of you.
Do it for yourself
Don’t do nothing. Embrace the right mindset values. Get out there and really better and improve your life. When you change your mindset values and improve your life you will be an unstoppable force. The purpose of the active no contact rule is to actively better yourself. Once you’ve done this all you have to do is reignite the spark you once had with your ex.
It is very easy to mess up the active no contact rule or confuse it with something else. First of all, the active no contact rule is not about making your ex jealous. It’s not about trying to control them or force them to contact you. The purpose of the active no contact is to make changes to yourself and to improve and better your life. Waiting thirty days to contact your ex isn’t going to do you any good if she only sees you as the same person she left. However, if you can show her you’ve changed and leave a lasting impression you may be able to reignite the spark the two of you once had.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.