Can’t Stop Falling For Bad Boys? #1 Thing You Need To Do To Overcome this Problem (and Start Attracting the Right Man For You)
In this video Claire Casey, a dating and relationship coach shares advice on how to stop falling for bad boys.
Why are you attracted to bad boys?
First thing to think about is WHY you are attracted to bad boys. There is usually a reason. The first thing that Claire suggests is that you take a break from dating and try and figure out what's going on. Usually a bad boy fills a need – and when you figure out what that need is, you can address what is going on with YOU rather than keep repeating a pattern.
Bad boys often leave us avoiding real love
More often than not, when we go for a bad boy it is because we like the excitement that comes with him but it also means that we are blocking ourselves off from meeting someone who we can have something real and lasting with. A bad boy comes with a badge that says ‘unavailable’ and for some of us, even if we don't realize it consciously, this keeps us feeling safe which means that we ultimately want to steer clear of having to open up, be who we truly are and be vulnerable.
Do some work on yourself and find out why you are scared
You really just need to do some work on yourself and ask yourself what seeing a bad boy gives you. If it is that you lack confidence and you are scared of being rejected for who you are, then why not see a coach and discuss this and work on your issues because otherwise you will just keep repeating a pattern and it’s time to set yourself free so you can be happy.
Is a bad boy who you really want long term?
Maybe he is. Maybe you do want a bad boy. only you can answer this, and if you do, then you do not need to work on anything, just be with him and be happy and create a life that works best for you so that you can be happy.
Some of us chase bad boys and get wound up with them because we say that THEY are scared of commitment but now maybe you can see, that the one scared of commitment is probably YOU. If so, you can work on commitment issues. You don’t have to make a big deal of it, you can just buy a book on commitment issues and learn to break through emotional barriers and push yourself outside of your comfort zone.
You deserve love and you don’t deserve to hold yourself back because you are scared of losing love if you find it. You will cope with it.
About Claire Casey
Claire Casey is the author of the bestselling online program “Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever.” She has devoted her writing to empowering women in the areas of dating, romance, relationships, and sexual intimacy.
To know more about Claire and learn how to attract and keep the man of your dreams, visit her website below.