“A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”
~ Mandy Hale
The relationship was going well and suddenly he disappeared.
He stopped texting and no longer answers your calls You can’t figure out why you were ghosted. Ghosted is when the person you are dating or talking to stops all communication out of the blue leaving the ghostee totally and utterly confused. Although the term may be new, being on the receiving end of a relationship in which all communication ceases has been around as long as people have been dating. It can leave you feeling insecure and questioning everything that you did and said during the relationship. .
It has been estimated that up to 20 percent of people have ghosted someone they were dating. The ghoster hopes to avoid confrontation and does not have to be present for the pain and confusion that they cause. There really is no strategy to avoid this situation, the best thing that you can do is to get through it.
Here are some strategies to get through it with more ease:
1. Give yourself time to be sad.
Allow yourself a week to wallow in the sadness, confusion, emptiness that you feel. Talk to your friends, cry it out, write about it, etc. But put a time frame on it so that you can move on and begin to shift your focus.
2. Do not play detective.
Don’t go looking for reasons why. Bottom line is that this guy is no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with you and he could not give you the respect that you deserve by ending it in an honest way. He is no longer worth your time.
3. Rethink the situation.
Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who can stop communication at any moment? The answer is, “No!”. Stop thinking of yourself as a victim of ghosting and think of yourself as being liberated from a person that does not possess the tools to communicate his needs.
4. Schedule something that you can look forward to.
Take a girls trip over the weekend. Book a massage. Go apple picking. You get the idea. Book your calendar for something that is fun and is for you. Shift your focus on looking forward to something instead of thinking about the end of your relationship.
You are a strong woman who has survived more than this in your life. You can move past this with a little time and effort put in to self-care.