How to Avoid The Texting Trap When Dating Online
Video Summary
Certified dating and relationship coach Sami Wunder share tips on how to avoid the texting trap when dating online in this video for Digital Romance TV.
The answer will be given in two parts- what you shouldn’t be doing when online dating and what you should be doing so that you can inspire men to ask you out more easily on real dates.
This is what you shouldn’t be doing.
You shouldn’t get yourself into a scenario called the texting trap. If you’re online dating, you wouldn’t want to fall into the texting trap with men.
What is a texting trap?
The texting trap is basically we meet someone online and then we chat. We say good morning and also goodnight. Even if he’s the one doing it, you’re still responding or you feel obligated to respond. You don’t want to do this because when you fall into a texting trap with a man you hardly know, you’re literally reducing the chances of him asking you out.
The mystery factor gets lost.
Most women think that if they’re nice, smart and witty over texting, he’s gonna see what a great catch you are and he’s gonna eventually ask you out. But it’s actually the opposite. It reduces his attraction for you because he finds you easily accessible and always available. The mystery factor which is absolutely priceless in the early stages of dating is completely taken away. So stop texting men if you want to get asked for real dates.
This is what you should be doing.
I want you to limit the number of messages you exchange with these men. You want to keep it with the lowest minimum possible. You want to give the following script. Once you’ve had a few messages exchanged, you can say, “Hey, it feels really good to talk to you but I’m not really that big on texting- I’d much rather see you in person”.
Two things will happen after you send that message.
One, if it’s a healthy, masculine man who means serious business, he’ll think it’s great that you’re interested in him and open to seeing him. He’s gonna do something about it. He’s gonna come up with an action plan. The second thing that could happen is that this person will either disappear or he will continue just texting you which means he’s not really serious. He’s just looking for buddies or beautiful ladies to text with. He’s a low effort guy. You don’t want to be with that kind of man- so just let it go. Stop replying to his texts.
Sending that message saves you a lot of time.
This script expresses your needs in a very good way. But it also gives the guy the chance to take the final step of asking you out. It also saves you a whole lot of time. Once you’ve given the script and the man is not stepping up, you can basically just drop him and move on to the next potential candidate. You don’t waste all that precious time chatting for four days, five days or a week to a man you don’t know has an interest in seeing you for a real date.
About Sami Wunder
To know more about Sami, visit her website www.samiwunder.com.