In this video Clay Andrews, a relationship coach talks about how we analyze our ex’s actions and how we obsess over the meaning behind the things they say or do.
Obsessing over every little action serves no purpose
Your ex likes a Facebook post or gives you a smile or sends a friendly text and suddenly you’re wondering if they are falling for you again and what it all means. However, there is no way to really tell. Maybe they are developing feelings for you again, or maybe they just happened to like your Facebook post. Over-analyzing every action like this serves you absolutely no purpose.
Stop reacting to your ex and start living your own life
When you live in this mindset of constantly trying to figure out your ex and obsessing over their every action then you stop living your own life. You end up putting your ex on a pedestal in which you think they can do no wrong and you spend all your time thinking about their actions instead of on living your own life. It’s no way to live, and if you do get back together it’s not conducive to a healthy relationship.
Be the best you can be
Take the steps necessary to become the best you that you can be. Obsessing and micromanaging every detail won’t solve or change anything. What happened in the past is in the past. All you can do now is move forward, live the life you want to for yourself and if they want to be a part of that invite them to do so. Take action to maximize your chances of getting back together, but don’t try to decode the past.
No one can get inside another person’s head, so you are wasting your time trying to figure out the meaning behind every little action your ex takes. It’s better for you to stop obsessing and living your life in reaction and move forward. See your ex as a regular person, rather than a flawless deity, and recognize they are trying to get through their own life. Their opinion of you doesn’t change who you are. All you can do is be your best self and invite them on the journey with you.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.