Relationship coach Matthew Boggs, who is also the creator of “Cracking the Man Code”, shares in this video what a woman should say to find out if a guy wants a relationship.
Should you ask him that question?
Many women are afraid to ask men this question because they might seem needy when they do and that it might ruin their chances with what could potentially be a great guy. The truth is, you will not be scaring off a guy who wants a relationship by asking him if he wants a relationship.
Guys who actually want a serious relationship would welcome that question. Guys who are afraid of commitment, on the other hand, are the ones who will not want to be asked that.
When do you ask this question?
You need to ask this question as early as possible, maybe even on the first date. You have to know at the onset whether you are dating a guy who has the same goals as you because you wouldn’t want to waste your time on a guy who wouldn’t commit anyway.
But you need to ask the question the right way. That is, you need to be aware of your worth, confident that no matter what answer he gives you, you will attract the relationship you want whether it is with him or somebody else.
How should you ask the question?
There are many ways to do this and one approach is to ask him to share his vision for his life – in a fun and cheeky kind of way. But before you actually ask the question, make him promise to be totally honest with his answer.
The exact question you can ask may be something like this: “If I gave you a magic wand and you could create anything you wanted for your love life, what would it be?”
The guy who wants a relationship would be quite clear with his answer. He will be straightforward about wanting a meaningful relationship, and that his goal is to find someone he will want to settle down with. His answer won’t leave you wondering what he meant by what he said.
On the contrary, a guy who isn’t really looking for a commitment right now will either tell you that he’s not looking for anything serious right now or he will be evasive.
When he says that he just wants to enjoy the dating scene, believe that it’s all he will settle for at the moment. If that’s not what you want, then move on. And if he gives a vague answer, then it merely echoes his uncertainty about what he wants.
About Mat Boggs
Mat has appeared on dozens of national media venues including: The Today Show, CNN Headline News, Fox News, CNN Showbiz Tonight, ABC Family, The Style Network, and many others, as well as contributed to an international peace symposium with His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
As a highly sought after speaker, relationship coach, and certified LifeSuccess consultant, Mat has helped people all over the country understand the hearts and minds of men, create major breakthroughs in love, and attract the relationship they want.
To know more about Mat, visit www.crackingthemancode.com.