In this video Clay Andrews, a relationship coach talks about how you can get your ex to talk to you again after you have completed active no contact.
Make it about them
When you are ready to make contact, make sure you are staying grounded in yourself. Feel your feet on the floor. Make sure your intention is on them and you can see the world through their eyes, while still staying grounded in yourself. Be curious about them and ask about them. Most people make it all the about themselves when they reach out, saying things like “I’ve missed you,” or “I have something to tell you.” This is not going to pique their interest. Make it about them and relate to them. Use that as an opening move to start a dialogue again.
Invest in transformation
There is not a Holy Grail of things you can say to get your ex to talk to you again. You have to invest in transformation and a change of mindset. It’s not about specific minute actions; it’s about a whole transformation. If you have done what you need to do and made the right changes, then when you reach out to your ex and show you are curious and make it about them you will have their interest.
Build an emotional connection
It’s about building an emotional connection. You’ve taken care of the changes to yourself you needed to make. Now go to your ex openly curious about them. Make it about them and connecting with them. Keep it about them.
If you have done the active no contact rule properly than you have invested in transforming yourself. You have taken the time to make changes and prepare yourself for a better relationship. Now you need to make it about your ex. Approach them with open curiosity. See the world through their eyes and find a way to relate to them. It’s about building an emotional connection with your ex, and the best way to do this is to be curious and focused on them.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.