How To Respond To a Guy’s Sexual Text Messages

Video Summary

Relationship coach Amy North authored The Devotion System, a program that helps women find and lock down the man of their dreams.  In this video, she shares tips on how to respond when the guy you like sends you inappropriate messages.

Texting can do wonders for building relationships, as it helps you keep connected to the man you like.  But what if he sends you sexual messages? 

How do you respond? 

Receiving suggestive messages are already awkward by themselves but more so when the guy sending them is someone you really like.  On one hand, you don’t want him to think you’re a prude.  At the same time, though, you also don’t want him to give him the idea that you’ll be an easy catch by giving in to the sexual banter quickly.

It’s a delicate balancing act alright but the trick is to respond to his innuendos in a charming way that tells him you’re not ready for “sexting” with him but, at the same time, you’re not totally opposed to the idea.  This is best illustrated through an example.

Say, for instance he sends you a message asking you what you’re doing to which you reply that you’re in bed.  He then follows it up with a text asking you what you’re wearing or he asks you to send him a photo.  The tone of such message might set off alarm bells in your head, sensing where this exchange seems to be going. 

What’s your next move?

One: you can be angry and tell him off for being inappropriate.

Two: you can make some lame excuses about why you can’t send him the photo he’s asking for.

In both cases, you tell him in no uncertain terms that you don’t want to go in that direction.  That will make him back off but he just might back off for good.  And you don't want that. 

You can, instead go for the third option: text him, “I’d love to answer that question but I think you owe me a few more dates first”.  Add a winking emoticon for added measure.

Or, another variation is this: “I’ll send you a photo, but that seems like something for down the road for now.”

Why it is effective?

There are obviously several ways you can word it but the message should be loud and clear.  You’re not angry with him but that you’re also not ready to play along.  You’re not doing this now, but you’re letting him know that this is something you won’t be opposed to in the future.  First, he has to work for it.

This is effective for making you more attractive to him because not only will it make him respect you more but that you let him know you’re also into him.  He would want to stick around for that.

Any sexual messages could be sidestepped with this type of message. It’s powerful because it shows him you have high standards for yourself and you are not the easy type. Your confidence will be sure to keep him interested.