In this video Clay Andrews, a relationship coach talks about how long a person should use the no contact rule after a breakup. There are a lot of people that tell you there are a certain number of days, but this is not necessarily true. How do you know how long to remain in active no contact?
There is no magic number
Active no contact is about creating a transformation within yourself so that you will be emotionally prepared to deal with your ex and interact with them. There is no magic number that will emotionally prepare you as every person is different. You may take a month while another person may take two to really make the necessary changes.
It’s about who you become
Active no contact is not about 30 days of no contact; it’s about an internal transformation. You can take 30 days or year, but this time won’t matter if you do not actively prepare yourself emotionally to deal with your ex again. There is no set amount of time. It’s about becoming the best you you can be.
Contacting your ex too early will ruin everything
If you prematurely contact your ex before you are emotionally ready you will blow everything. You need to stop worrying about the right number of days and focus on really preparing yourself and making changes to yourself instead. Otherwise you risk pushing your ex away.
Active no contact is different than passive no contact. Those that preach passive no contact seem to think you can put an exact number on the time and you and your ex will magically reunite. Active no contact, however, is not about a number. The length of time you need to follow the active no contact rule will depend solely on you and your emotional state. For some people it will take less than thirty days, but for others it may take more. The point is that during this time you make changes within yourself. It is about creating a transformation so that when you do get back in contact with your ex you are emotionally prepared to deal with any outcome.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.