January 15, 2019

Things To Do To Make Him Miss You – 5 Experts Share Fascinating Insights

Things to do to make him miss you

“A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”

~ Mandy Hale

# Follow the below tips
Ileana-Hinojosa

Be a safe place for him

Be kind and be a safe place for him. Take care of him like you want to be taken care of emotionally and physically. Do things with sincerity and not because you want something in return. Be thoughtful and make him his favorite meal.  Surprise him with something that he likes. Listen to what he says and let him know with what you do for him that you are listening to him.  

Don’t be petty and hang on to things that don’t matter anymore. So, he forgot something; don’t keep harping on it. Praise him when he deserves it and don’t belittle what he does for you. Be gentle with his secrets and don’t throw what he has shared with you in his face. Be respectful of his feelings even though he does not express them the way you do.

Be mindful when he is quiet

Be mindful that when he is quiet, you don’t need to fill the space with conversation. You can be present and engaged with each other without words. Hold hands and be affectionate with each other.  Let him think and respond thoughtfully to your questions. Slow down and be present for him. Look at him when he is talking and make eye contact.

Give him space to relax and let him express his feelings. If you cut him off when he is talking or assume what he is thinking, he will shut down and pull away from you.

Have a sense of humor

Don’t take yourself too seriously. Have a sense of humor. Leave him a note with something funny.  Make time to have fun and laugh.  You don’t have to be perfect and neither does he. Be easy going about the things that will be forgotten tomorrow. There might be times when you have to go with the flow and roll with it. Plans change and life happens. Be flexible and understanding.

Let him know you appreciate the things he does for you

Thank him and take time to recognize the things he does for you. Show him that you value him by acknowledging his needs. Ask him how he is feeling. Have a conversation with him and don’t talk at him. Ask him his opinion about things. You might be surprised what he will share with you if you give him the opportunity.

Welcome him when you see him. Be mindful when and where you bring up the things you want to discuss. Don’t pressure him for an answer for something when he just got off work and sat through an hour of traffic.  Let him decompress and relax so that he can be his best for you. Try and enjoy the time you spend together.

Don’t take him for granted

Avoid heavy subjects if the timing is not right. Schedule time to discuss something that is important to you and needs his full attention. Wait until the time is right to discuss more serious issues. Don’t ambush him with something and demand a decision when he is not in the right frame of mind to respond thoughtfully.  He won’t appreciate feeling pressured or backed into a corner.

Don’t take him for granted. Check your anger and make sure that you are not taking your frustration out on him for past relationships. Sometimes the person we are in a relationship with is the safest and easiest person to lash out at. Be mindful that you are not taking your anger out on him when you are mad about something else. You will push him away if you keep beating him up for something that is not his fault.

Be yourself

Be genuine and don’t fake it or lie to him. He will figure out the truth with time. Be open and honest. Be yourself. If you are relaxed when you approach him, he will feel your vibe and hopefully match it. He wants to enjoy his time with you so make your time with him quality time.  Give him a reason to look forward to being with you. Set the tone, so that he wants to spend time with you because you are loving and safe place for him.

Ileana Hinojosa, MLA, LMFT – www.themindfullife.net

# Be yourself
Ashley-Davene

First thing to know is you can’t ‘make anyone do anything’ to be perfectly honest it’s way easier to attract someone who does meet your needs than it is to try and change someone. That said, you can encourage the right person to desire you, to miss your presence!

Here are a few tips on how;

Keep the mystery - there’s a quote about how good writers never reveal all their ‘secrets’ right away… they keep leaving the reader longing for more through revealing themselves piece by piece by Piece… moment to moment to moment.

By ‘secrets’ I don’t mean like deep dark secrets or things someone should know off the jump like your true age, whether you have children etc etc I mean fun delicious parts of yourself and Life such as that trip you took to Mexico or the fact that you were a dancer in your past, your absolute favorite restaurant, your dreams, etc etc etc reveal yourself over time keep the mystery alive & leave them full but desiring more.

Healthy space – think of Love as a fire 🔥 to much air and the fire goes out, to little and the fire is smothered and also burns out… but just the right amount of air and space for the flames to build and you have a lasting fire… the same is true for Love. To much space and the connection burns out or is damaged to little and the same thing…. Just the right amount of presence and healthy space will create a relationship that will give you the warmth of a delicious fire or summer sun all year round.

Respond as love not fear – whenever we are afraid of losing someone we have no time for loving them. In relating especially in the beginning we can be in fear of whether or not the person likes us etc etc. this can cause us, in wanting to preserve ourselves from getting hurt, to put our walls up or respond in fear instead of Love.

When we are coming from an empowered place as a full cup rich in self love, we can begin to step back and not respond from the triggered fear place but from a place that seeks peace, clarity, truth, and healthy relating. Regardless of whether it works out or not, you know that you’ll be ok so you can drop some of those walls and give the person a real chance to know you and miss your presence when you’re gone.

Be sexy – I often have clients tell me they are upset because a man isn’t pursuing them… but then when I ask what they’ve been doing, have they been sweet, have they left them a little love note or told them how deliciously handsome they look etc etc they often respond with a definite no… to which I explain that’s like asking a wood stove to warm you without giving it any fire…now we shouldn’t have to tell our right person to be thoughtful or to compliment us etc etc but we can inspire them.

Be the sexy delicious passionate woman you are, however that looks to you which in one moment or case might be blue jeans, a pair of sneakers and a white t-shirt and in another a little black dress and heels… really, true sexiness has nothing to do with what you’re wearing it’s an essence, a vibe, a feeling. So BE your sexy self, draw him to you like a bee to honey.

Have a Life – hopefully a rich deep and fulfilling one, that’s not just about him. Be vibrant and goal oriented, have hobbies and passions that you actively pursue. Let him know when you can’t make it because you have a class or an art show, or dinner with your girlfriends, but you’d love to at another time such as; it’d sexier to be a full whole woman that it is to be overly available to his every whim.

A large mistake I see women making in dating is being afraid to not be completely available afraid of losing him… this will actually work against you. So don’t play games, but be true to yourself. Don’t drop all your friends or social engagements … definitely include him, adjust your life and schedule accordingly but always maintain your individuality and that delicious spark of passion and aliveness! That draws him to you in the first place.

In the end, the biggest advice is just to be yourself.

The right person will see you and step in, you can definitely encourage deeper healthy relating but also know that you deserve someone who simply chooses you, because.

Ashley Davene, Relationship Counselor - www.ashleydavene.com

# Follow the 2 tips below
Jacklyn Bystritsky

Everyone wants to be missed by their significant other so if you think he is not missing you, then there are a few things you can do to help him miss you which will create more excitement and passion in the relationship. 

1. Don’t always be the first one to call him.

Wait for him to call you a few times out of the week and the rest of the days, you can call him to ask how his day went.

2. Offer to spend time doing activities that he enjoys.

For example, if he likes bowling then offer to go bowling Saturday night. Or if he enjoys watching movies, then offer for the two of you to go see the latest movie that HE wants to see. 

What this does is that he is creating associations in his brain between the things he already likes and with you. So this way, when he thinks of you during the week he has good memories of you sharing with him in the hobbies and activities he really enjoys which in turn will make him like you more and of course miss you more.

This does not mean that you have to always be doing activities that only he enjoys. But once in a while, it will be nice for him to hear that you are interested in sharing experiences with him doing the things he likes. This will also show him how much you care about him.

Jackie Krol, LCSW – www.psychotherapistjackie.wordpress.com

# Really good relationships, can be built on friendship, trust, compatibility and common goals
Sally-Leboy

Any way you slice it, if you are trying to figure out a way to make somebody else feel, think or do something you are being manipulative. It doesn’t matter whether your intentions are benign or hostile; you have taken some kind of action, probably covertly, to change someone else.  Manipulation is a game.  There is no other way to define it.

You alone cannot create chemistry or desire in your relationship.  Chemistry, as defined by the dictionary is “the complex emotional or psychological interaction between two people”.  By definition chemistry must involve two people.  Think of creating water.  You can’t put oxygen in a test tube and will it to become water.  You have to add hydrogen to allow for the chemical interaction that will produce water.

While chemical interactions are more predictable than human interactions, the principle is the same. If you put your authentic self into “the relationships test tube”, and he does the same, you have begun the process that will either result in a passionate chemical explosion or a chemistry dud.  If there’s no explosion, it probably isn’t meant to be. 

You can certainly improve a relationship by working on communication, or finding common goals and values.  You can also improve your sex life, but you can’t change the chemistry. This is not to say that relationships have be passionate in order to work; they don’t.  

Relationships, really good relationships, can be built on friendship, trust, compatibility and common goals.  However, if you need passion, don’t think you can will it or manipulate it into being.  As the dictionary said, chemistry is a complex reaction involving two people.  You can’t create it on your own.

Sally LeBoy, MFT – www.sallyleboymft.com

# Follow the 4 tips below
Amy-Sherman

It’s unfortunate when you’re in a relationship and you feel you have to play games to get your boyfriend to miss you. 

But, if that’s the case, let’s talk about this.

  • Are you seeing your boyfriend so often that it seems he’s taking you for granted?
  • Do you think the relationship could use a little boost to make it more exciting?
  • Does your boyfriend appear bored?

Many times, relationships become complacent, where both parties become used to the way things are going, and no effort is made to make things better.  You just go along, satisfied with what is.  Obviously, relationships take effort and the most successful ones are constantly evolving, growing and exploring each other and the world around them.

So, if you feel your relationship is becoming ho-hum and you need to get him to miss you and appreciate what he has, here are some suggestions:

  • Don’t always be available when he wants to see you.  Instead, keep your life full with outside interests, friends and new ventures.  This ensures that you’re  busy, but it also keeps him wondering what’s going on and why is he not part of it.
  • When you are with him, be the best you can be.  In other words, show your true personality, your humor, charm, caring and sincerity, so that when you are not around, he misses that.
  • Leave a little mystery in your conversation, so that he becomes curious about your life.
  • Take things slower than he would like, causing him to want more. He’ll have trouble getting you off his mind.

Perhaps, this little boost will get your relationship back on track because it should feel like a mutual commitment, where being with each other is an enhancement to both your lives.

Amy Sherman, M.A., LMHC – www.yourbabyboomersnetwork.com

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