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Relationship guru Carlos Cavallo of DatingAdviceGuru.com counts down to the ten kickass girl habits that make a woman successful with men.
#10: She’s done second guessing her value …
Nowadays, it seems as if media own our perceptions of ourselves. We see ads everywhere making us feel unhappy about who we are now. Don’t fall for this trap. Instead, believe that you are adequate.
#9: She’s happy single …
You are better off single than to be in the wrong relationship. You know this. But your fear of being alone undermines the reality that staying in the wrong relationship can damage your sense of self. Enjoy the time that you are alone.
#8: She’s genuine...
If you keep trying to cover up your imperfections or change yourself to suit other people, you’ll end up as one huge neurotic mess. You don’t have to broadcast your flaws but don’t be in an active campaign to hide it either. Don’t stop getting better; in the meantime, keep it real.
#7: She’s a work in progress …
All of us are imperfect, and that’s okay. If you keep comparing yourself to an imaginary perfection, you will only end up being unhappy. Be happy now and keep on working on your flaws along the way.
#6: She can take a walk if that’s what she needs to do…
The secret to any successful negotiation is this: you have to be able to walk away. It works whether it’s for the car you want, a vendor you’re haggling with, or the relationships that you have. If you’re not getting what you want, walk away.
#5: She doesn't have to act like a man to get what she wants…
She doesn’t have to be aggressive to get what she wants but she’s assertive. Aggressive is being pushy whereas assertive means keeping your boundaries intact. You need to be able to stand up for yourself.
#4: She won’t be a victim…
Playing the victim will hold you back in every part of your life. Being a victim means blaming others for all that has gone wrong in your life. True, you have no control over most life situations but you do have full control over how you react to them.
#3: She’s stopped acting like a 20-something
One obvious manifestation of this is being the drama queen. Guys can take a few dose of drama because they understand that it comes with the territory. But if you’re walking around always looking for emotional turmoil, that will surely make any man take a step back.
#2: She nurtures her mind, body, and spirit..
A man will look at a woman and sees past the physical attributes. He wants to see a living, thinking, growing person within you.
#1: She’s got a plan and a direction…
You are your most valuable possession. The Internet is flooded with free stuff – advices – but they can only get you so far. You may need to cough up a few bucks and invest in help that will get you where you need to be.
About Carlos Cavallo
Carlos Cavallo is a dating and attraction adviser, as well as a black belt instructor and motivational life coach. He’s the author of Forever Yours – The Secret Password To His Heart, The Connection Code, and too many other programs to mention.
Carlos brings to the table a variety of life experiences, including a background in relationship skills, life-coaching, motivational psychology, sales, management, Martial Arts, teaching and instruction, energy work, Eastern philosophy, the psychology of achievement, and music.
Carlos Cavallo’s programs teach the essence of attraction between the sexes. By understanding the successful traits of an attractive single, you can attract the right man, achieve more success with your personal and social world, and experience a more rewarding life.