Two Types of Questions To Ask a Man on a First Date (Increase Your Man-Ray Vision)
Video Summary
Do you wish you could ask 2 questions and understand a man’s heart and mind? Now you can! In this video, bestselling author Matt Boggs reveals these two magic questions, and what the answers tell you about your date.
Man-ray Vision
The ability to ask the right questions can give you the capacity to see into a man’s mind and heart. Someone once said, “the quality of the questions we ask determine the quality of life we live.” In the same way, the questions you ask determine the quality of your relationship, and your ability to have Man-Ray Vision!
IMPORTANT! When asking the following questions, ask from a place of lightheartedness and fun. The worst thing you could do is ask from a place of interrogation!
1. Magic Wand Question
This question only works if you set it up correctly. Approach it by saying, “can I ask you a personal question?” This is important, because it sets you apart from the majority of other women he has dated. This is where your playfulness comes in: challenge him to promise you a 100% honest answer. It is important here to set the stage for honesty, and most men will take you up on it. Without further ado, the first question:
If I gave you a magic wand and you can create anything you want for your love life, what would you want?
Look for the 3 C’s
Clarity – Does the man know what he wants? If he does, he is invested in the answer he is giving because he has thought about it. The amount of energy he has put into envisioning what he wants is equal to how much energy he will invest in you. If he hasn’t thought about it, this is a sign he may not be ready for the relationship you want.
Congruence – Is he being authentic or feeding you a line? Listen to your intuition on this one.
Consciousness – Is he a giver or a taker? It is important to read his energy when he answers this question. Does he want a relationship to fill a void? If so, this is taking energy. Does he want someone to share his already amazing life with? Then, it is partnership energy.
2. Search for Values – Ask Why
We usually fish for facts, but facts fall short of telling us what we want to know. A faster way to understand the man in front of you is to search for values! How do you do this? The best ways to figure out a man’s values are by finding out his internal motivations.
The trick lies in asking why, not what!
Look for a Pattern
Here is a great example. When you ask him why he chose his job, listen carefully to his reasoning. He will either give you a vision-driven or condition-driven answer. Is he working in a career he loves, or did he take the job because he couldn’t find anything else? This will tell you whether he is a creator, or simply a victim, of circumstance.
If you need a more nuanced approach, simply ask: What caused you to choose that? He will answer in a way that reveals what really matters to him.
About Mat Boggs
Mat has appeared on dozens of national media venues including: The Today Show, CNN Headline News, Fox News, CNN Showbiz Tonight, ABC Family, The Style Network, and many others, as well as contributed to an international peace symposium with His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
As a highly sought after speaker, relationship coach, and certified LifeSuccess consultant, Mat has helped people all over the country understand the hearts and minds of men, create major breakthroughs in love, and attract the relationship they want.
To know more about Mat, visit www.crackingthemancode.com.