Relationship Coach Shares What To Say When He Asks You Out Last Minute [Perfect Response Revealed Inside]
In this video, Matt Boggs talks about how you can respond when the guy you like sends you that last minute text. You don’t want him to think you’re sitting around, being desperate, but you do want to see him… so what can you do?
People will replicate behavior that they get rewarded for - so don’t reward his last minute text.
If you show him that you are prepared to cancel your plans at the last minute, so that you can hang out with him - he is going to expect this from you again, and again and again. You deserve more than that. He needs to put in some effort. Politely explain that you’ve made plans, and leave that with him.
Let him feel the pain of missing out.
Could be fun! Bummer, already got plans tonight. Next time? - Next time you receive a last minute message asking if you want to meet tonight, try replying with something like that to him.
Why is this so effective? Well, saying ‘could be fun!’ is a challenge to him. It suggest that he is missing out on something. Yet you aren’t saying something needy like ‘oh what a shame, I really want to see you…’.
Bummer shows that you want to see him, and all men need validation. Saying that you already have plans tonight shows that you are a high value woman who is in demand.. Very appealing to guys. Saying that you already have plans shows that you are a woman in demand, yet you’re not rejecting him as you leave it open by asking ‘next time” The ball is in his court again…
Go with the flow.
Don't always feel that you have to say no, if you ARE free and available - if he happens to be in your neighborhood, and you are actually free, say sure, let’s meet up. However, make sure that you just go as you are.. Be authentic. Don’t rush about doing your makeup and hair, driving all the way across town whilst he just lounges in his apartment. He is putting in minimal investment if you do that - you do the same. Go with the flow, keep it light and breezy and next time let him work to see you.