What Your Ex Means When They Said “It’s Me, Not You”… (Or Any Common Breakup Excuse)
In this video Brad Browning, a relationship coach will tell you the true meaning behind the words your ex tells you when they say “It’s me, not you,” or any of the other common breakup excuses you hear being used, like: “We’ve grown apart…” or “You’ve changed… I’ve changed,” or even the “We’re just in different parts of our life right now,” excuses.
The Truth Behind the Excuses
What 90% of people don’t realize is that all of the excuses commonly used are simply excuses. In an effort to protect your feelings, your ex gives you one of these excuses to hide the real reason that they are breaking up with you. Around 99.9% of the time, the reason behind them breaking up with you is because the attraction between you two has faded.
As harsh as it is, this is the reality of why you and your ex broke up in the first place. If there is no attraction then there is no relationship—it’s too vital to a relationship to be missing.
Attraction is Key
When speaking of attraction, Brad is specifically speaking of Emotional Attraction (EA for short), rather than physical attraction. This is the glue that holds together the long-term relationships and marriages, a bond that isn’t easily broken. If a couple has a high-level of EA then not only can they stay together for a long time without any problems, but they can also withstand adversity of all kinds—such as bankruptcy or a long-distance relationship between them.
However, if they have a low-level of EA, then the relationship falls apart and fades easily. This is because there isn’t a strong enough bond to weather whatever adversity comes their way. It becomes easier to just breakup.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.