In this video Clay Andrews, a relationship coach addresses the matter of when or if you should have sex with your ex. Should you play hard to get? When is too soon? What about friends with benefits? If you are asking these questions you are really on the wrong track. So what is the right way to approach renewing a sexual relationship with your ex?
Do I want to have sex with this person?
Before you enter into a sexual relationship the first thing you need to do is ask yourself if you really want to have sex with this person in this moment. Make sure you are not using it as a mechanism or a tool to get him back. Also don’t play hard to get in order to get him to chase you. You really need to examine your motives and make sure it’s about wanting him physically and not about playing a game to get him back.
Are you emotionally okay to deal with it
The second step to deciding whether or not you should have sex with your ex is to ask yourself if you will be okay with your decision if it never leads anywhere. If the two of you have sex and it ends there, will you be okay. If not than you are probably not ready to have sex.
How to Proceed if you are Ready
If you can answer yes to the two above questions than it is probably okay for you to go ahead and have sex with your ex. If you are not thinking “sex will make him like me again” or “sex will get us back together” then go for it. Make sure you enter into with no hidden agenda and that you are in touch with you own sexual desire. Your ex will sense how open and accepting you are and it will create a deeper connection between the two of you. It may even allow you to come back together again as a committed couple.
Don’t play hard to get or play games.
You’ll simply be another conquest or another notch on the bedpost. Don’t rush back into sex if you are not going to be okay if things don’t work out between the two of you. You are ready for sex with your ex only when you can say that you simply desire them sexually and you have no hidden agenda. Your ex will sense this from you and appreciate it. It may even be a turn on for him. It could also even deepen your connection and help move the relationship forward.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.