In this video Clay Andrews, a relationship coach answers the concerns of “James Bond” who worries that his ex doesn’t answer his texts quickly enough.
If we assume that James has finished the thirty-day Active No Contact period and now may interact with is ex, we must also conclude that he hasn’t learned all the right lessons from it. It’s probably a good time for James Bond to take a few steps back.
Active No Contact
The goals associated with the Active No Contact are about teaching you to live your life fully and without depending upon your ex to bring happiness or fullness to you. It would appear that Mr. Bond is still hanging on his ex’s every text message. It is likely that this viewer needs to go back to square number one. He needs to distance himself from the ex and remind himself that his life is ordered and has value without getting those things from her. It is only through this independence of thought and emotional well-being that he can progress.
Enjoying your own company
The Relationship Inner Game program is created to help you be a more complete person and better able to engage in a fulfilling relationship. You don’t want to be a parasite who lives off your partner, (your host organism,) who provides all you require to live. You want to be sufficient in yourself. You want to be attractive for what you can bring to a relationship, not what you take away from it. The exercises and tools we teach are designed to help you be content in your own company. That way, if your ex doesn’t text back immediately, you can move forward happy to know that she, too, has an exciting and fulfilling life.
Constrictive emotional energy
When we spend our time looking to our partner to complete us, we are actually sucking them dry. We are taking our own gratification from them instead of enjoying our own experiences. This is an unhealthy and constrictive emotional energy that can end it breakup. Behaving in this way will eventually make the partner feel as if he or she is constantly giving while you constantly take.
At this point, you should be making your own happiness and sharing it with your partner so that you are each contributing to the other. This creates an expansive emotional energy that rewards your partner for being with you and serves to help you both grow.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.