How Do I Overcome My Insecurities As the Relationship Moves Forward: 4 Brilliant Insights Revealed Inside
“A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”
~ Mandy Hale
We all have insecurities.
We learn them, from our history with other people. Part of moving forward in a relationship is expressing to each other what makes up your insecurities. If someone says they do not have any then they either do not know themselves well or just don’t want to admit it.
Insecurities have to deal with many things in our lives.
It can be loud noises caused by abuse or difficulty expressing confidence caused by a disapproving parent or needs to have the last word caused by someone that dismissed their opinion or on and on. You can get nervous easy or blush easy or be embarrassed or never want to show emotion or anything.
Our history with the numerous people in our lives have “taught” us to question ourselves, decisions, directions, worthiness, strengths, weakness and so much more. Anything that you may feel “ticky” about or fear or nervous about or any negative feeling emotion word you choose, and you have found an insecurity.
Flip side, we also learn good from the people in our history. For this topic we are only talking about the history teaching us insecurities.
The point is we are not “messed up” because we have insecurities. It is part of what makes us who we are. If we are with someone that is meant to “fit” in a relationship with us then they will understand, respect and help you with those insecurities.
No one person can handle, cope or live with every insecurity out there.
We feel connections with those who can handle, cope or live with our individual insecurities. If someone can not handle an insecurity we have, then they don’t really fit into our lives. It does not label them bad or good, just whether or not they are a good fit.
Now do you want to drop many insecurities on someone just to get them out of the way when you meet. No. You learn about each other gradually and that includes your insecurities. Talk to each other, spend time with each other. See if you “fit” together by learning who each of you are.
Insecurities will show on their own, just be honest about them.
Say how you feel and say if you can or can not deal with those insecurities you see. You overcome them together, and others you learn to cope with while not getting rid of them, but you grow in your relationship because of differences, not in spite of them.
So it is not you overcoming an insecurity alone, it is a couple process.
The safe haven of the relationship will give you security to prove your insecurities wrong. You will encounter insecurities all along your relationship. Some stronger then others. Address them together. Couple means you are not alone. Enjoy that in having someone, even when it comes to the tough stuff like insecurities.
Respect who you are with all your strengths, weakness, and even insecurities. You deserve that from who you are with and from yourself.