What To Do When He Pulls Away and Comes Back – 7 Experts Reveal Exactly How To Handle This Situation

Loving someone is a risk. 

You risk your heart and put your trust in another.  The dating scene is filled with putting yourself out there until you finally find someone that is worthy of your love and trust.  It is sometimes a journey to get to that place of commitment.  A journey filled with bumps and turns.  Sometimes the bump is a feeling of him pulling away only to find that he comes back to you.  

Being on the receiving end of a partner pulling away leaves us feeling insecure and causes us to lose trust.  

Maybe he has been busy with work, maybe he doesn’t return phone calls or texts as quickly as he used to.  I encourage you to slow things down and remind yourself that it can be natural for one partner to take time to process through his or her feelings in order to be confident that he or she wants to move forward in the relationship.  

If his pulling away has left you questioning your own feelings, it’s important to communicate with your partner how you are feeling.  

Sit down together and ascertain the “why”.  If his reasons are compelling and you find that you trust him, then I encourage you to commit to openly communicating your feelings with honesty as you to move forward together.

But, what if his reasoning for pulling away still leaves you confused and feeling insecure?  Take some time to assess your feelings.  Are you happy that he is more present in your life? Does he have the qualities that you are looking for in a long term partner?  Do you still trust him?  

If you find that you are answering “no” to these and other questions, then it is time to let him go.  

You are a wonderful woman who deserves to be with a man who respects you and fulfills your unique needs.  Allow yourself time to grieve this relationship and move on to bigger and better things.