In this video, Carlos Cavallo, a relationship counselor for DatingAdviceGuru.com helps women to decipher a man and know the reasons he pulls away.
Understanding men begins with understanding his ego. For a guy, his ego allows him to do what men do well: overcome challenges, protect his woman (and kids), keeps him quiet when nothing important is to be said, and to take action when needed.
Understanding Men 1: His ego isn’t what you think it is…
It seems to women that a guy’s ego reflects his inflated sense of self. But there is more to it than that. For him, his ego does broadcast his self-confidence; after all, it’s the structure around which he builds his purpose in this world and his feelings of competence.
But a man’s ego is quite fragile, too. Little do women know that they hold such influence over a man. When he puts himself out there for you and you stick a pin in his ballon – no matter how unintentionally – you’ve done irreparable damage and that’s when he’ll likely pull away.
Understanding Men 2: Why he grows cold and pulls away from you and disconnects…
A woman opening up her heart shares her innermost feelings. Men are not as used to talking about their emotions but they do open up their heart to women. Women just don't get it. A man opens up his heart by sharing his intentions and purpose in life, as he sees it at that moment.
For instance, a man shares with you that he really wants to open up a dojo to teach martial arts to people. What would your reaction be like? Most likely, something like “Seriously? Don’t you think that’s kind of irresponsible to our family? I mean, how do you expect to make money from that?”.
And that stings because he would have expected you to have his back; instead, you shot down his brilliant idea, his pipe dream. Also, words like “irresponsible” are like a punch to the groin, and that kind of pain resonates for a very long time, causing him to disconnect. He’ll probably resolve not to share with you something from deep within him, ever again.
Understanding Men 3: A man’s built-in purpose is to please women…
Men are not human beings – they’re human doings. There’s a built-in part of them that just needs to do. And this part includes the need to impress women. He will work very hard to earn your approval because when he pleases you, he feels good about himself.
So the key to make a man want to stay with you is to give him the ability to make you happy. It’s not about you trying to please him but about you letting him work to please you. Very few women let men be what they need to be these days because a lot of women choose to do the chasing; mind you, that is very unattractive to men.
About Carlos Cavallo
Carlos Cavallo is a dating and attraction adviser, as well as a black belt instructor and motivational life coach. He’s the author of Forever Yours – The Secret Password To His Heart, The Connection Code, and too many other programs to mention.
Carlos brings to the table a variety of life experiences, including a background in relationship skills, life-coaching, motivational psychology, sales, management, Martial Arts, teaching and instruction, energy work, Eastern philosophy, the psychology of achievement, and music.
Carlos Cavallo’s programs teach the essence of attraction between the sexes. By understanding the successful traits of an attractive single, you can attract the right man, achieve more success with your personal and social world, and experience a more rewarding life.