5 Little-Known Secrets About What Men Think

Video Summary

In this video, Carlos Cavallo, author of DatingAdviceGuru.com, explores the reasons men don’t do what women might like them to do.  These are the secrets behind how men think.  For a woman to know what holds a guy back is really important, because it gives her a window to his world and helps her to steer a better relationship for them both.

Secret 1: “Why don’t men text me back?”

Texting as a technology is a boon to us; everyone seems to be short on time these days and we need to do things quickly.  Texting helps.  But just because it has become a default mode of conversation for most, you should not mistake it for something that will help you create something meaningful.

Texting is for “I’m on my way”, not for “tell me about yourself”.  You can’t expect to get to know someone just by texting each other.  Also, men are always conscious about what they say to you.  For them, the less they type, the less mistake they make and so they tend to stick to one-word replies such as “sure”, or “ok”.    

Secret 2: “Why doesn't he tell me he loves me?”

Men don’t talk about their emotions the way women do.  It is what it is.  It’s difficult for women to understand that because women find it easy – and actually want to – overanalyze their feelings.  But the same is not in a man’s nature.

It doesn’t mean he’s incapable of talking about it; he is, but just not at the level that a woman does.  It also means that he finds other means of expressing his love – and that is by demonstrating it.  So watch what he does more than what he says.  He could be utterly awkward and will be embarrassed to say he loves you but his actions may be telling you otherwise. 

Secret 3: “Why don’t men ask for directions?”

Men like to feel competent, capable and able to provide for you.  Something as simple as asking for directions run contrary to that.  When he’s driving you somewhere, he equates it with providing for you; so if he has to ask for directions, it makes him feel less competent and, thus, less of a man.

Secret 4: “Why don't men plan romantic dates anymore?”

It’s really frustrating when a guy asks you out and when you ask him what he wants to do, he throws the question right back at you.  Guys need to step up and put more effort into creating a loving experience with you. 

Now, there’s a simple way to get around this conundrum: he makes the plan and then he asks for your input.  This gives you a chance to give him some feedback so he can be sure that he’s doing the right thing. 

Secret 5: “Why don't men commit?”

Men do commit.  He will commit to something he feels is a challenge and that which promises him a huge enough reward.  One way to challenge him is to let him know that you expect him to be better at being a man and hold him accountable for his role in the relationship.