In this video, Brad Browning, a relationship coach will talk about some of the massive mistakes people make after the “No Contact” phase and how to fix them.
Benefits of the “No Contact” Phase
The “No Contact” phase, which last around 30-days, is an effective technique when used properly. Because all contact with your ex is avoided, their memories of the breakup and other negative aspects will be replaced by the more positive aspects of the old relationship. Once these feelings have peaked, they will be a lot more receptive to rebuilding a relationship.
This phase will also allow you both to heal, calm down, and do damage control. It gives you time to fix your bad habits and plan things out.
After “No Contact” Phase Ends
What you say and how you say it after the phase ends is crucial and requires the time beforehand to better yourself. You need to be able to act as if you can live without your ex and are happy to do just that if they aren’t willing to get back together. Under no circumstances should you plead or beg for them to take you back, and don’t share deep feelings with them either.
Don’t jump the gun when you see an opportunity to get back together with them. Instead, take the chance to see where they stand. Test the waters before you apply techniques to rebuild mutual attraction between the two of you.
Never Talk About the Breakup
One huge mistake people make is talking about the breakup with their ex. Under no circumstances should you ever do this. Keep the conversation tone positive and show them that they don’t need to have their guard up around you. Remind them why they fell in love with you and work on building a solid foundation again.
The more positive encounters your ex has with you, the more they’ll open up and be willing to discuss the relationship.
Avoid the Friend-Zone
As tempting as it sounds to work your way up from being their friend again, you don’t want to get stuck here. Being labeled a friend will leave you an emotional dumping-ground for them and things will end up messy. If you want to get back together with them, avoid this zone at all costs.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.