In this video Brad Browning talks about what to do if your ex ignores you when you contact them. You’ve taken at least 30 days with no contact and still nothing. What do you do next?
Don’t freak out if your ex does not respond to you.
The first thing to do, is to stay calm and don't freak out because your ex doesn't respond to you. He could just be busy! Or, he could be playing a mind game to see how you react to his no contact. He might be testing you to see if you are still the same needy person that he remembers you as. Play it cool and give it some time.
Think about the kind of texts that you are sending to your ex.
Texts such as ‘Hi, whats up?’ don't create any emotion. They are boring and dull, so make sure that you put some more thought into what you are saying if and when you send a text to him.
Send ‘the good reminder text’ - it shows that you are over your ex but still think of them from time to time. For example ‘hey Neil Young is playing in Vancouver in October. Thought you'd like to know as I know how much you like his music!!’
This should make your ex feel special and you are showing that you remember something about him but aren’t asking him anything about what he has been doing.
Use exclamation marks at the end of your texts.
A study showed that people who used an exclamation mark at the end of their text got a 20% increase in response rate. This is because it makes you sound lively and happy and the more you can act like this the more likely it is that your ex will want to chase you.
Calling your ex - make sure that it is a ‘reminder call.’
The same rule goes for texting as it does calling - make sure that you remind your ex of something that you used to do together or something that you know they enjoy doing. For example, if a new series is about to air, of something that you both loved watching on Netflix, call and say hey I know it starts on Sunday, thought you might like to know. Where possible try and call when you will get your ex’s voicemail and leave a message but if he does pick up then stick to the plan.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.