In this video Brad Browning talks about how to get back together with your ex if you lived some distance apart and aren’t likely to see them out and about.
First of all - be honest with yourself about whether this was a relationship.
A lot of people nowadays meet someone online but never meet in person, Whilst the pain feels just as real, it can be really hard to get back with someone who you never had shared times with. Therefore, be honest with yourself - because there is no point prolonging the agony, and it might be better for you to move on from your ex.
Cut of all communication with your ex for at least 30 days.
This is the first step towards shifting the balance of power back in your favour. You need to cut contact for at least 30 days if you have not done this already. This helps your ex miss you, and gives you time to heal yourself. Your ex will miss you the most around 3-4 weeks after the breakup. You can then reach out to him or her right when they are missing you the most. It also gives your ex time to forget the negative memories.
If you have kept in contact with your ex? Make sure that you cut contact, say you need some space to heal and let your ex see you moving on with your life.
After a period of no contact, spark your ex’s interest in you.
You can use exactly the same techniques to do this as you would if you lived in the same town as your ex. You show your ex subtly on social media that you are getting on with your life… you mention your new life to mutual friends.
You can then send a text or message to your ex, reminding him of something that you remember about him. Like telling him that his favourite show starts again at the weekend - but avoid talking about why you broke up and keep things positive and casual. Let your ex feel drawn to you, because you are fun to talk to.
When the time is right, arrange to meet up.
If you live miles apart then this can be done on Skype or some form of video chat. Talk to your ex, in a calm and relaxed manner, and be a little elusive. Do not ask if he is seeing anyone or talk about why you broke up or whether he has missed you.
If you can think of a reason to go to where he lives, say for example, it could be to do with work, then do so - and ask to meet for lunch or coffee. But if he lives the other side of the world and you have no other reason to be there than to see him, don't. Feb 13th. do that.
After the meet up? What next?
You can flirt a little, and then suggest that you are back in town at the end of the month so why don’t go you for dinner next time. Try and keep the first meet a no sexy time meet, and go for something casual like going for coffee.
Keep the spark going, if you do have contact with your ex before the next meet up, still avoid talking about the breakup and do not ask where things are heading with you. Just let things happen naturally, and he will more than likely find himself drawn to you! Result!
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.