In this video Clay Andrews, a relationship expert reveals one popular excuse people use during a break-up – “I need space.” How do you deflect and move past this excuse when your ex says this to you.
Why your ex may need space
Someone usually asks for space to figure things out in their life when things just are not feeling good any more in the relationship. Think of your relationship on a linear scale. On one side the two of you are head over heels in love and the other all you do is fight. In the beginning relationships feel really good. As things progress sometimes there is a shift toward the bad area, and your ex has begun to think that the relationship is not going to bring joy or happiness to their life.
Everything you do shifts the scale
Every action either feels good or feels bad, and with each action you are tipping the scale either towards the positive or the negative end. If your actions create more negative than positive feelings, you will end up on the negative end and your partner will not be happy in the relationship. Every action is important. Forgetting your partner’s birthday is pretty major, but even small things like getting up and making him or her breakfast can shift the scale.
Your actions can’t just feel good for you
If you are trying to shift the scale back in your favor, it’s important you begin to create more positive emotions. Your actions can’t just feel good for you either. You can write love poems, songs or make great efforts, but if these efforts only feel good for you, it's not going to work. If your ex is already on the negative side of things, they may actually need space and you smothering them with poems will not feel good to them. Respectfully give them their space and learn the relational skills you need so that your interactions will move things in a positive direction.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit his website below.