In this video, Brad Browning talks about when to meet up with your ex after a breakup. Brad is a Breakup and marriage expert, and is the author of ‘The Ex Factor Guide’.
You need to think about rekindling things with your ex and this takes time.
Brad talks about three phases that you will go through after you breakup with someone and those are: Recovery, Rekindling and Re-attraction. You want to focus, and take your time, over creating re-attraction with your ex. This means, setting up some meets with your ex, playing it cool, and casual, flirting, and reminding him of just how amazing you are. He will soon start to wonder why he ever broke up with you.
Do NOT text your ex, or suggest that you meet up, until you have completed the first two phases after a breakup (recovery and rekindling) because if you do you will be coming from a place of desperation and emotion and this will drive your ex away from you.
Wait at least 3 weeks before you arrange your first meet up.
You may see your ex at school or work - but you want to arrange a meet up with your ex, that is a casual, 20 minute meeting (coffee is great), to catch up and share some laughs. However, don’t just ask your ex to ‘go for coffee’ - think of a reason as to why you want to see him. For example, if he has travelled to New Zealand, ask him if you can meet and talk about that as you are thinking of going there.. Ask to talk about something that HE is interested in.
But you need to wait at least 3 weeks before you arrange this as you need your ex to be in an emotionally neutral state (and not be mad at you), and you also need to work on your own headspace. You cannot show any negative emotion, so.. If your ex says no to your first suggestion of meeting, act like you’re totally cool with that.
If your ex says no to meeting then leave it another 3 weeks, flirt, text, get things to a good place and then suggest a meet up again. Maybe go for the ‘let’s do dinner with mutual friends’ rather than the cosy coffee.
So, there you have it, timing is everything but so is the way that you present yourself. Don’t be too needy or emotional just: Make him laugh, bring up memories, flirt like crazy and show off a little. Get yourself feeling confident again and your ex will wonder why he ever let you get away from him.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.