In this video, Brad Browning, a relationship coach will teach you how break the silence with your ex by calling them. But beforehand, make sure you have seen and read about his policy on the “No Contact” phase, as it will be referenced due to being a critical part of this. Also, if you were the type to text rather than call, he recommends doing that instead.
Concerns Over Calling After A Breakup
Learning to call your ex after a breakup can be very stressful. Your head will no doubt be filled with thoughts on “what to say” or “what if they don’t respond” or “what if they do respond” and so on. The first thing you don’t want to do is panic, more so if you’ve been following Brad’s advice from the beginning.
All it’ll take is a little work, and you’ll be chatting away with your ex in no time at all.
You Must Be Ready
If you plan on calling your ex, you must be thoroughly prepared before you start down that road. People can tell how needy you are from the tone of your voice alone, and many people who can’t mask it will blow their chance in this stage because of it. If you’re not in a stable or relaxed state, you’ll stutter and sound nervous, giving it away and forcing you to start all over from square one.
Voicemail Contact Technique
One technique to help is the “Voicemail Contact” technique, where you call when you know that your ex won’t be able to answer the phone. This will lead to the call going to voicemail, where you can leave a short message for your ex. A direct phone call will inevitably leave your ex confused or they’ll think you want to get back together, which you don’t want them to do.
Leave A Short, Thoughtful Message
Leave a message about something they like, such as a sale on something that you know they would love. This gives you a plausible reason to contact them and has real value, rather than begging to get back together. Most importantly, you’re sending the message that you’re over the breakup at this point.
Tone & Speech Matter
What you say is just as important as how you say it. Do your best to sound happy, calm, and relaxed. Make sure that you aren’t speaking too quickly, or else you’ll sound nervous. And remember to end the message with something passive, like “hope all is well.”
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.