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In this video Claire Casey, a dating and relationship coach shares advice on how to handle a man when he starts pulling away.
Don’t be needy and don’t chase
Okay, so the first thing is that you shouldn't chase him, as a guy does not like a needy woman as he feels like he is responsible for her complete happiness and this is too much pressure to put on someone. He needs to see that you are not 100% available all of the time solely for him. Intrigued? Follow the next step.
Date other men. He is probably dating other women.
Do not do this just to get some sort of revenge on him, but do this because chances are, he does not have all of his eggs in one basket so to speak, so why should YOU? By putting yourself out there and actually dating other men, you become less available and you remind him that actually, you are a catch and other men are interested too and if he does like you he has to think long and hard about whether he really is okay with just letting someone else have you.
However, don’t TELL HIM that you are seeing other men as this will look like you are just playing games and trying to get his attention. Also, actually do this, and do it for yourself, so that you can see who else is out there. When you feel stronger in yourself, he will notice a shift in your energy field and he will find himself feeling YOU backing off too, because your attention will be elsewhere and you will feel more confident and this will also come across.
If however, you are just sitting at home and waiting for him to call you, you give off an air of desperation, even if you don't realize this, so change your energy field and change your experience with him and kick start things again and you never know, he may wind up chasing YOU.
Note: it’s never healthy to put all of your eggs in one basket, so always make it your priority when first dating a guy, to also keep seeing others. If he wants to make you his girlfriend, he has to then take you off the table if you like, away from the prying eyes of others. Make him value what he has and make him work for it. Don't just give yourself away too easily as he won’t respect you for this and you do want him to value you otherwise he’ll get bored quickly and move on.
About Claire Casey
Claire Casey is the author of the bestselling online program “Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever.” She has devoted her writing to empowering women in the areas of dating, romance, relationships, and sexual intimacy.
To know more about Claire and learn how to attract and keep the man of your dreams, visit her website below.