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In this video Helena Hart, relationship advice expert from Commitment Connection talks about what you can do if you feel that you have slept with a guy too quickly and you really want him to commit to you.
Don't be ashamed of what happened
Don't be too hard on yourself if you feel that you have slept with him too soon. You cannot change what happened, and why should you? If it felt right at the time, accept that it happened and focus on the positive aspects of it. Let him know that you enjoyed yourself, in a non gushy way, as you want him to associated only positive feelings with the time that he spends with you.
Then, go about your life, and just carry on doing your own thing. Stay leaning back in your feminine energy and let him pursue you for a relationship.
Let him pursue you and don’t freely give away sex.
Just because you slept with him once, and maybe too soon, it does not mean that you now need to carry on sleeping with him, whenever he wants. Men feel a desire to commit when they feel like they have invested in you, so keep going on dates with him, treat him like a brand new guy in many ways, and don’t give him special treatment just because you slept with him.
It’s a feeling that makes a guy commit to you.
Lots of advice and coaches will tell you to take time away from him, play hard to get - but this is not what makes a man fall in love with you. A man will fall in love with you when he feels safe with you, and can trust you with his feelings.
Be someone that he is happy to spend time with, someone who is relaxed, in her feminine energy and if sex comes up on the menu again, just say that you realise that you did not discuss the sex thing last time, but you are someone who only has sex when she feels like she is safe within an exclusive relationship and take it from there.
Last but not least, don't undervalue yourself, and remain in your feminine energy. Shine from the inside out and a guy will find himself irresistibly drawn to you.
About Helena Hart
As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach with a masters degree in Psychology – and a Master Coach Teacher for Rori Raye – Helena Hart understands the challenges of balancing the masculine energies she uses in work with the feminine energies necessary for success in dating and relationships.