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In this video, dating expert Amy North shares 3 key things that can really get a man addicted to you.
Why he loses interest in the first place
Picture this scenario: you met a man, went on what seemed like a really good date, and then he just fell off the face of the earth. Sounds quite familiar? Well, many women can totally relate to this. And another thing that most women can relate to is that if it didn't work it, they blame the guy for it.
The thing is, you may have more to do with his loss of interest than you think. One of the most common reasons a man loses interest in a woman is her inability to communicate clearly and effectively.
#1. Confidence is key
Men love women who are utterly confident about themselves. They are attracted to women who seem to know what they want and – more importantly – know how to ask for it. You can be that kind of woman, too, but first, you need to know your standards.
Knowing your standards simply means that you know what you are looking for in a man and in the relationship. That includes knowing how you'd like to be treated and what you find unacceptable, among other things. What is tricky is how to tell him this without coming across as self-entitled, high maintenance, or bitchy.
#2. Let your guard down
You need not worry so much about giving a bad impression when you communicate your standards to a man. It is actually one of the most attractive things you can do.
When you set standards, it’s a challenge for him. He knows you know what you want and he won't be able to sway those wants. He feels that he has to step up his game because he realizes that you will not settle for anything less.
You wouldn't want to be around someone who seems to hide his feelings or get his guard up when he’s around you, right? It’s the same with him. He’d rather that you have the confidence to voice your opinions and to be yourself when you’re with him.
#3. Choosing your words wisely
So how do you communicate your standards in a way that is attractive? Tell him directly but leave him wanting more.
For example, what would you do if he makes a move on you and you’re not comfortable with it? You shouldn’t passively accept his advances, of course, but nor should you aggressively tell him off. Instead, tell him this: “I am attracted to you but moving quickly isn’t my style. If you want to spend more time together though, I’d really like to get to know you better”.
With this, you tell him your standards in a way that doesn't belittle him. Plus, you keep him interested by inviting him to spend more time with you. You can use this same technique anytime that he pushes your boundaries.
About Amy North
Amy North is a relationship coach and best-selling author
from Vancouver, Canada. She specializes in helping women from around the world find and keep the man of their dreams.
Amy’s acclaimed online program, The Devotion System, has sold thousands of copies and is widely regarded as the #1 women’s dating guide on the planet.
To know more about Amy, visit www.devotionsystem.com.