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In this video, Life and Relationship Coach Helena Hart M.A discusses why women chase men they like - and what will happen if you stop chasing him. If you’ve ever wondered whether he would simply give up and disappear on you, you might be surprised by the advice that Helena gives.
If you stop chasing him will he come back to you?
Typically YES. It’s normal to worry, that if you stop chasing him will he chase you. What if you stop chasing him and he goes after another woman? Most men are hunters by nature, so if you back off and stop chasing him, most likely he will start to chase you. At least he will, if he is actually interested in you. Guys who are players probably won’t but then isn’t it a good thing that you know that now, rather than waste time chasing the wrong man?
Look at what energy you are giving off. Are you being masculine or feminine?
Many women, these days, understand, that a woman has just as much right as a man, to go out there and chase somebody. That’s great and all - but what can often happen is that a woman pursues a man so intently that she accidentally slips into the operating zone of masculine energy. This is the energy where we are focused on results, and getting things done.
For the guy who is on the receiving end of this energy, it can make him feel emasculated, and this does NOT feel good for him. Therefore, he is probably then going to back away. A woman is then left wondering ‘hey what did I do wrong here?’.
So, what can you do? How can you get a guy to chase you?
Basically, just focus on being feminine, Be playful, be flirtatious, be you. Yes, be independent. Being feminine does not have to mean that you are being weak. You are being the authentic self that you are supposed to be and the right guy for you will be attracted to that.
Back off, let him chase you, and remember, that if he doesn’t pursue you then he is simply making room for the right guy to meet you. A guy who is REALLY interested, yes he may need to take a little time out to calibrate but he actually will come back after you as he knows when he likes somebody.
By stepping back and allowing him to chase you you are helping him to feel masculine, and this is the best place that a guy operates from. Don’t deny him that, as when a guy FEELS good around you he will want to step up and commit to you.
About Helena Hart
As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach with a masters degree in Psychology – and a Master Coach Teacher for Rori Raye – Helena Hart understands the challenges of balancing the masculine energies she uses in work with the feminine energies necessary for success in dating and relationships.