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Want Your Man To Be More Affectionate? Relationship Expert Reveals the Golden Key To Make Him Open Up To You
In this video, relationship coach Susan Winter looks into a man’s psychology and talks about how getting a man to do more of what you'd’ like him to do is as easy as giving him a cookie. Intrigued? Read on to find out what she means by that.
Give your man a cookie - in other words, be positive.
Men mess up, men drive us crazy, but if you nag and moan and are constantly on at him, chances are, you will simply drive him away from you. Men are inspired to take action and do a lot more for their women if their woman gives them a cookie. What this means is, give the guy a break from time to time.
Men are goal oriented and they need to know that we acknowledge, see and appreciate the things that they do for us.
So, if you’re caught in a cycle of negative, then try and think of just one positive. No matter how big or small it may be, whether it be that he chose a great movie, or he took the trash out - tell him that you appreciate it.
Men ultimately want to make us happy.
It can be so easy to get caught in a negative cycle with your man, and think that all he wants to do is cause misery. However, men ultimately want to make us happy. But men are a little like children (sorry to any guys reading this). They need to be praised and they need to be appreciated, everytime they do the ‘good things’.
The more a guy feels that he is pleasing you, the more he will want to do it. This makes him feel like he is a king with you, and that to a man is priceless. So. for one week, make it your daily duty to give your man a cookie. The results that you will see in your relationship, really will surprise you.
‘Right reinforces right’ - it’s Pavlovian, and once you understand this aspect of a man’s psychology, everything will suddenly change for you. Women feel that we need to nag and withdraw in order to get a man to do more for us, but actually, praise all of the good behaviour and your guy will be beside himself trying to please you.
So, give it a go. Try not to feel like this is you backing down from what is important to you. Remember that a relationship is not about winning, it is about finding out how best to communicate and what makes each other tick. Once you can speak his language life will be a hell of a lot better for you.
About Susan Winter
Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men), is a bestselling author and relationship expert specializing in higher thinking for an evolving world. She writes, speaks and coaches on cutting-edge partnership models as well as traditional relationship challenges from a platform that fosters self-esteem and personal empowerment.
Susan’s first book, Older Women/Younger Men quickly became an international bestseller as it opened the hearts and minds of readers’ worldwide to the validity of this type of age-gap love. Susan’s second book, Allowing Magnificence completely reframes how we view life’s challenges, empowering the reader to reconnect with the limitless power they already possess. Susan is currently a contributing writer for The Huffington Post and The Good Men Project.
To know more about Susan, visit her website www.susanwinter.net.