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In this video, dating expert Matthew Hussey of “Get The Guy” fame, talks to women about creating opportunities for love and relationships by using these four harmless words: “Hey, how’s it going?”. Here’s how:
Say for example you’re out on a party and you want to get people to talk to you. Just do this: whenever someone is close to you, say “hey, how’s it going?”. When you walk to the bar, turn to the person closest to you and say, “hey, how’s it going”. You do this to ten people for the next 30 minutes, and it won’t cost you, right?
They might say nothing and that’s fine because you haven’t really asked them anything. But occassionally you’ll get a reply, “Good, how are you” and you say, “Great, thanks”. Then you grab your drink and wish them a great night. You could get their names, too, before walking off.
An hour later, you bumped into any of those persons again and this time, you asked, “hey how’s your night?” with a bit more familiarity to it. And the person you say that to will be more likely to respond to you in the same way.
Picture this, if a person were to approach someone in that sea of people, who do you think he will come up to – someone who hasn’t said a word to them yet or someone who has engaged them already? Again, you spend the first 30 minutes of your night being approachable so that you get approached the rest of the night.
If you want more opportunities with men, you need to create them. You can’t just wait for them to happen to you. For instance, you may have this belief that you can only meet men in the evenings and that it’d be weird for you to socialize with them when they’re going about their day-to-day business during the daytime. You have to revise that thought because there’s opportunity at every turn.
When the opportunity does present itself and you met someone you’re attracted to, don’t hesitate to initiate the interaction. Being able to approach men – having that level of certainty about yourself – is what will make you attractive.
Different culture but same need to connect
Whichever part of the world you may be, human beings are human beings and we are not so different from each other at all. We have the same basic needs – one of which is the need to connect. Differences in geography may mean differences in culture but when it comes to dating and finding love, the same basic rules apply.
Wherever you are, don’t make excuses about why you can’t find love. You will encounter options at every corner so perhaps the reason it’s not happening to you is because you are not making it happen. Whatever excuses you have, it all boils down to two choices: you can either wait or create. When you create opportunities, you also build your confidence.
About Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.
Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.
To know more about Matthew, visit www.howtogettheguy.com.