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In this video Susan Winter talks about what to do if you encounter a guy who clearly has an interest in you, but seems to pull away whenever you try to get close to him. There is a reason for this that isn’t a simple case of ‘the guy is just not into you'.
How to recognize that somebody might be behaving like this.
He might be showing obvious signs that he is interested in you, you can just tell, you read his body language, you catch him glancing at you, yet when you try and make everyday conversation with him or look back over at him he rejects you.
YOU know whether or not somebody is into you, it’s something that you can just feel. So the first step, is to ask yourself, what does your gut feeling tell you? Is he into you and pulling back when you show that you’re interested? If you feel that yes, this is what is happening, carry on reading to find out why he is behaving like this and what you can actually do about it.
So why does he behave like this?
Guys who behave like this often do so simply because they do not like the spotlight being on them. When you show him some attention, you put him in the spotlight and he will run off like a rabbit in headlights. This can be really confusing for you because you KNOW that there is a mutual attraction but naturally, you will start to doubt yourself. Don’t do that… unless you are prone to delusional behaviour, this attraction IS a two way attraction, but he is on the other end of the spectrum to you. If you are feeling it then it is happening. So, what can you do about this?
Here is what you can do about this.
Next time he is close by to you, start talking - but don’t direct it at him, Talk observationally about the decor, or the people in the room and see if he responds to you. By doing this you are keeping this external, rather than putting him under the spotlight and if he likes you then he has a less pressured opportunity to speak with you.
Some guys just freeze when they are attracted to someone, and this is actually the opposite to the hot and cold kind of player, rather he just doesn’t know how to handle things. A little time and patience can see this guy melting. But know when to draw the line and walk away from things.
About Susan Winter
Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men), is a bestselling author and relationship expert specializing in higher thinking for an evolving world. She writes, speaks and coaches on cutting-edge partnership models as well as traditional relationship challenges from a platform that fosters self-esteem and personal empowerment.
Susan’s first book, Older Women/Younger Men quickly became an international bestseller as it opened the hearts and minds of readers’ worldwide to the validity of this type of age-gap love. Susan’s second book, Allowing Magnificence completely reframes how we view life’s challenges, empowering the reader to reconnect with the limitless power they already possess. Susan is currently a contributing writer for The Huffington Post and The Good Men Project.
To know more about Susan, visit her website www.susanwinter.net.