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In this video, relationship coach Matthew Hussey of “Get the Guy” fame shares three specific messages that you can send a guy to get him to pursue you.
Women have a huge role to play in getting a man to chase them. The women today who get the best men – and the best behavior from those men – have two things going for them: one, they set high standards for themselves; and, two, they can communicate those standards in a way that’s attractive.
There’s a term the food industry uses that’s very apt for this: bliss point. When food reaches the bliss point, one may feel full but never satiated and so that person will keep wanting more of that food. If you can achieve this bliss point in your communication with the guy you want, you will have him addicted to you for sure.
Here are examples of how to give bliss point responses to certain texts from a man:
Date Deliberator Text
The guy who sends the date deliberator text is someone who seems undecided as to what he wants to do on a date. He sends you something like: “So what are we doing tonight?”
To such a text, your bliss point response should be: “As much as I love planning, I think it would be more fun if you decide (winking face)”. This is you telling him that you don't expect him to plan everything forever but that he should be the one to take the initiative at this early stage.
The Homebody Text
This type of text is where the guy sends you something like: “There’s a cool bar in my part of town for tonight” and you know that the last time you met up with him was also at his part of town.
The bliss point response to the homebody text should be something like this: “Jeez are you always this lazy? It’ your turn to come to me (kissing face)”. You are calling him out for his behavior but you are doing so in an affectionate way.
Day of Disappearance Text
It’s one o’clock in the afternoon and you are supposed to go on a date tonight but the guy who asked you out has not given you any details yet. It’s long past the time for him to have given you some sort of plan. So what do you?
Instead of waiting, the bliss point message you can send him is this: “Hey you, should I assume we’re not on for tonight? I haven’t heard from you and I have other things I’d like to do if not”. You are basically telling him that your time is valuable but doing so in a kind way.
Women often hesitate to send such messages because they are afraid that they might lose the opportunity to see the guy they want tonight.
But here’s the thing: communicating your standard and creating attraction are basically the same thing. So if sees that you have high standards, it may not guarantee you a date tonight, but it will definitely build a longer term attraction.
About Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.
Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.
To know more about Matthew, visit www.howtogettheguy.com.