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Relationship Expert Reveals a Weird Counter-Intuitive Tip To Find Love (Hint: Powerful + Easy To Implement)
In this video, relationship expert Matthew Hussey, creator of “Get the Guy” program, shares his number 1 tip for finding love.
Going on random dates is time and energy consuming. You’d be lucky if you go out with someone and you click. But if you are not so lucky, you end up having spent your evening with someone who you realized within the first five minutes of meeting that you feel nothing for.
Go on fewer dates
If your random dates are leading nowhere, then it’s time you take on a different approach to dating. You need to be generous about who you meet but selfish about who you date.
When you’re going through your dating app, for instance, don’t dismiss anyone outright because you feel that you don't have anything in common. Be less selective about who you talk to but be much more selective about who you date. Dating is what’s time-consuming, so is investing in emotions.
Go on 1-minute dates
Meeting people will take a few minutes of your time and in those few minutes, you’ll know if it will be worth the time and effort to date somebody. This is where the one-minute date comes in.
One-minute dates are moments you give to a potential date that will help you assess whether you click or not. They consist of quick conversations or exchange of messages that allow you to meet as many people as possible and to make yourself available to as many people as possible. And then only go out with someone with whom you feel you have some connection with.
Be choosy about who you give your time to
A lot of women have spent their time and energy on men who aren't even trying. They are hesitant to end an affair which they knew deep in their hearts to be going nowhere just because they feel they have a connection with that person.
So many women would rather waste yet another evening of their lives on relationships that are going nowhere because they’re afraid to go out there and meet someone new. Yes, it’s easier to be with a person you already know but if they’re not satisfying your needs, why stay?
Date someone you have a chemistry with
You don’t have to go on a date everyday of the week – in fact you shouldn't. People think they have to go out on a date to find out if they have chemistry. That shouldn't be the case at all. You should only go out on a date with someone whom you know you have chemistry with.
You’ll know within five minutes of talking to someone if you click. So a better use of your time would be to give up at least three minutes everyday to get someone on the phone or to have a quick conversation with someone you just met. Go out and talk to people and create chemistry so that you can decide on the one night of the week that you do have a date.
About Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.
Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.
To know more about Matthew, visit www.howtogettheguy.com.