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Dating expert Mat Boggs shares 3 strategies for getting men to notice you in this video.
He starts off by introducing you to this universal principle called the law of receiving.
Have you ever noticed that when you are generous with something, you receive more of it?
When you give to charity, you are also blessed with financial abundance. When you make time for other people, you have amazing friendships. This is actually how you activate the law of receiving – by giving something first.
When you want heat from your fireplace, you feed it with wood. You don’t ask your fireplace for heat before you give it wood, correct? But in dating, that is often what we do: pay me attention first, before I will pay attention to you.
The next three strategies that Mat Boggs shares to get men to notice you is premised on this: that for men to show interest in you, you need to start showing them attention. This might scare you because it might make you look like you’re needy or desperate but it all depends on how you communicate that interest.
#1. Make the first move
Women have been making the first move since time immemorial. Take for instance women of the Renaissance period, coyly dropping their handkerchief in the presence of the gentleman they are trying to attract. Men fall for it, rushing to pick up the hankie, using it as an opportunity to strike up a conversation with the lady.
Nowadays, making the first move is even more appropriate and convenient. Online, you can shoot him a message to start up a conversation. Offline, there are so many topics for making small talks to break the ice.
#2. Make eye contact
There’s a cute guy you are interested in, look at him and let him catch you looking at him. Smile. Hold that eye contact to the point that it becomes uncomfortable. Far more often than not, he will reciprocate the gesture. He will also see it as an invitation for him to come over and talk.
#3. Break the professional barrier
By professional barrier, this means that maybe the guy you want to be dating is a colleague or perhaps somebody you see in a professional setting, like your doctor for instance. There’s electricity between you – you get along fine, you laugh together, you share interests – but the thing is, he’s not asking you out.
You can give him permission to ask you on a date. How?
By saying this: “You know what, we get along way too well not to be hanging out more”. Why is this great: Because, one, you highlight the fact that you connect and, two, you let him know that when he asks you out, you’ll say yes.
These strategies might be simple but they are far from easy. They require you to step out of your comfort zone. But think of it this way: the life that you want, it’s beyond that comfort zone and you want to be “high value” enough to have the confidence and courage to go for it.
About Mat Boggs
A true difference maker, Mat Boggs has dedicated his life to increasing Love in the world one heart at a time, and helping others achieve their dreams. Mat has co-authored the best-selling book, Project Everlasting: Two Bachelors Discover the Secrets of America’s Greatest Marriages.
Mat has appeared on dozens of national media venues including: The Today Show, CNN Headline News, Fox News, CNN Showbiz Tonight, ABC Family, The Style Network, and many others, as well as contributed to an international peace symposium with His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
As a highly sought after speaker, relationship coach, and certified LifeSuccess consultant, Mat has helped people all over the country understand the hearts and minds of men, create major breakthroughs in love, and attract the relationship they want.
To know more about Mat, visit www.crackingthemancode.com.